Can you give me examples of manipulative persons?

Question

I would like to know how and why they do it

Answer 1

manipulators need to be admired and lack empathy for other people
Some want attention, others just want to feel they are in control
These people are needy, helpless and incapable of functioning unless they receive constant approval, reassurance and emotional support. Dependent personalities constantly try to get others to do what they could easily do in order to reduce other people's expectations.

The popular term (for women, at least) for this is "drama queen." The histrionic personality tends to be vain and self-absorbed, using emotions to manipulate others. Working with someone who must be the constant center of attention means you must be prepared to withstand their use of emotional explosions to get their way.



Type A angry
The multitasker who becomes stressed and angry in a traffic jam or even waiting for others to finish a sentence is an example of this type. These people are obsessed with getting more and more done in less and less time. They tend to be controlling and even intimidating. People who work for or with angry Type A personalities often feel they must walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting them.

Answer 2

To the person with the lazy mother-in-law. Try this, change your phone number and don't tell her the change. Be demanding if you want this to stop. When talking to her be snappy with your responses, don't let her get a word in edge wise. Before she asks you, ask her first, and be very short with your responses. She'll eventually get the message that she can't be so pushy with you if you push back first. Don't give her any time to ask anything or to tell you anything, it will take time to practice this but in the long run it will work. I had a similiar expierience with a lazy friend who didn't work and always complained. I tried the same things and it worked like a charm. It sounds mean but it's the only real way to get that crap to stop.

Answer 3

well for a really good example you can take my mother in law...(please take her)
anyway..she doesn't work and gets a check every month. i still haven't figured out why she "can't" work. she has only one child and god knows i had to fall in love with and marry him. she calls my house like 10 times a day and leaves really pitiful messages about really minor stuff. she will let us know when she is getting a shower just in case we try to call ( she says so we wont think she is dead) and pretty much every day she talks about how sick and suicidal she is. she does this to get things. money, food, cigarettes. anything free and she wants it she doesn't care if she can even use it. when my husband and i lived far away from her she told us lies to worry us to get us to move back home. just so we could buy her groceries and pay her bills.
she does what she does for attention. at some point in her life she didn't get enough of it from someone special. so now she manipulates everyone around her to get what she wants.

Answer 4

Read:

Shakespeare's King Richard, paying particular attention to the character Iago

William Makepeace Thackeray's Vanity Fair, the main character, the woman, who was played by Reese Witherspoon, for a more charismatic manipulator

Watch Reality TV

Answer 5

Sure, kids that have tantrums, men complimenting women to have a one night liason, people that tell people what they want to hear to gain a favorable position, lawyers that sell their clients out for money rather than obtain justice for them, the news media can slant your thinking and behavior with their "spin/opinion", inlaws driving a wedge between married children, gossipping girlfriends that tell their not so favored girlfriend that they heard or saw their boyfriend or spouse with someone else, so they can have a shot with them etc...etc...so on and so forth...

Answer 6

HOW - They make you feel guilty or sorry for them they use your emotions and reaction to their advantage
WHY - its a form of control it give them the sense a power to get what they want

Answer 7

Women. To get whatever they can from a man by pretending to be weaker, less intelligent, and/or needier than him, or by pretending that they are interested in him.

Answer 8

how-fear
why-power