23 yrs old. dating for two years. living together for one. Says he wants to and is ready.
Why no ring?
2006-11-29 13:48:39 · 11 answers · asked by Rigger 01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's your hurry? Enjoy your youth. It only comes around once in your life.
2006-11-29 13:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. No matter how ready you seem, don't put value and emphasis on being married. People treat it like it's some door they have to reach, open, and enter the room to win the prize and mark that off their list and be part of the chosen few. You may not feel that way, and you may have the best reasons in the world to marry this young. You two could be perfect for each other. Well, if you are then you'll be perfect in a year or two and be ready.
I think it's very likely that in 7 years or so you'll realize that what you wanted out of life and out of marriage is very different in your 30s than in your 20s. That realization may bring you to the conclusion that the marriage was not a good idea and you'll have to decide what to do. Know what you want, know you're both ready, and cut him some slack on the ring!
2006-11-29 13:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hhhmmm I had a similar problem... and guess what? 7 months later he was living with someone else and then 3 months after that he bought her a ring and then 7 months after that they got married in Cape Cod MA and went to Mexico on their honeymoon.....he wouldn't even go to Vegas with me for vacation because "we didn't have the money". and we could have a child because money was too tight (so he made me have an abortion ) and now I think his new WIFEY is PREGO and they just married in July. SOOOO Watch out!!! I am hoping that it does nto turn out this way for you!!! Maybe he is just saving up to buy you a really super nice one!!! make sure before you get any ideas or get all hurt!!
2006-11-29 14:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. You are so young. I know that you hate hearing that because I sure hated hearing that when I was your age, but you are. Look, Marriage is great but it's not euphoric. Beware of the Monkey's paw . . . marriage brings along a lot of of new challenges and issues of its own. Just wait until you get married and your soon-to-be sister in law doesn't come to your bachelor party and you cry for three days, or your new mother in law starts pressuring you to visit for Thanksgiving and Christmas. My advice is to forget about it and have fun, enjoy your youth and your relationship. Good things come to those who wait!
2006-11-29 15:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Crockeruha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a lot of reasons. Maybe waiting till you guys have a little more money....your own home...a better job. You need to talk about the reasons why he or she is waiting.
2006-11-29 13:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Please oh Please think long and hard about this before you get caught up in the craziness (rings, dresses, wedding plans, etc) pray about this before you make such a decision. What's the rush, you're only 23, let your 20s belong to you. You have plenty time to get married.
2006-11-29 14:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking an online message board this question? The person you need to ask is HIM
2006-11-29 14:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 23 is not too late
2006-11-29 13:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kev C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is the rush .i been with my boyfriend for 10years and i do not want to marry him..why do i want to .........i been there done that.......what he hads is mine and am taken it and he don't have much
2006-11-29 14:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient. don't pressure him or he will go away
2006-11-29 13:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Harpomyminischnauzer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋