Last year i had a friend. A best friend, i could tell him anything. I had a slight crush on him too. He was in a lot of my classes and we were really close. This year i haven't said one word to him and i thought he had completly forgotten about me. But as close as we were i started to think and you just can't forget that. I'm too shy to talk to him, but i wish that he would have talked to me. Why are we completly out of each others lives this year, i hate it and i can't show it. Hes mom just recently got cancer too. So this morning he was on my bus because they moved to a hotel. He passed me and didn't say a word, but he talked to my other friends. Did I do something. I beleive that if you can't get someone out of your head, then maybe there supposed to be there. But why is he in my head. I don't like him anymore. Well i donn't have a crush on him anymore. But i really wish we could have stayed friends. This whole thing is so confusing and i really need someones help or oppinion. HELP!
2006-11-29 13:39:31 · 22 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you should take the first step and go up to him. He probably has a lot on his mind with respect to his mother's cancer and could probably use a good shoulder to lean on, and if you were best friends last year, it is probably just the shoulder he needs. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are sad because you don't communicate anymore. More than likely, he feels the exact same way. Ask him if you offended him in some way. I know, easier said than done, but really it is probably the only way you are going to get any answers. Just take a deep breath and go for it! You won't regret it.
2006-11-29 13:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by cptkmwallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your young friends come and go. Your best friend in grade school may only nod at you today in high school. It's the nature of things. A little of the problem may be your shyness, he may be taking it as a form of being snubbed by you and let's face it girls, guys may seem tough on the outside but they are very insecure about themselves on the inside. If you truly just want his friendship again this year, put a pretty smile on your face and the next time he crosses your path turn it towards him. If for no other reason at least let him know you care enough to ask about his mother, not only will he acknowledge you but it may get a conversation started like last year
2006-11-29 21:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have alot on his mid if his mom has cancer. And he may be thinking the same thing you are. So go up and ask him how he has been doing since last year and I am sure you'll be right back to how you used to be. Some guys are more shy about starting conversation(Especially if he has a crush on you too!)
2006-11-29 21:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by shannyutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want him as your friend you should talk to him. Hey! he's probably thinking along the same lines as you are. He probably thinks he's done something wrong just like you do. Just talk to him. He really needs someone right now. Because you've known him for a while you would be the best person to talk to him.
It's hard to find a good friend. Don't let him slip away.
2006-11-29 21:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. i had a friends go to the same college as i and we did everything together talked every chance we got in the halls. when he went home for the summer he called all the time. and he had even told me that he lved me at one point. so i stopped doing the stuff that he didn't like doing cause he was coming back. but with one week beofe i had to go back in the fall he told me that he wasn't going back to the same college as i was and that would never see him again. i still go to that scool thinking that i would see him in the halls or something. and i still do see him in my mind. one of my friends told me that he would never leave my mind until i find someone new. so maybe that's what you need to do is find someone new. old flames often don't be friends every long
2006-11-29 21:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by gibbs_20_11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sarah,
Talk to him.....I bet the family drama has been building and he's may be a bit embarrised about family issues or having to move due to mom's medical problems......Just be the friend he may really need......be supportive and tell him your there for him if he wants to talk.
Good Luck ... be aware of the emotion he must be going thru now..... be sensitive to that!
Good Luck
2006-11-29 21:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead of being so sad and depressed everyday, why don't you just go up to your male friend and ask him if you can talk to him in private and find out what the problem is between the two of you guy's and then try to resolve it.
2006-11-29 21:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by stephaniefarkas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age makes things awkward. You have to suck it up and go talk to him. Just be honest and ask him why you are talking or firends anymore. I believe that he will tell you. If you were such great friends, than talking to him about this shouldn't be that hard. If he blows you off, than he wasn't really your friend to begin with.
2006-11-29 21:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Scott U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being shy and just ask him casually, say, "I miss talking with you, what's been going on lately?"
Then let him do all the talking, just keep asking cause guys really like to talk about themselves.
2006-11-29 21:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as it seems you have to tell him all this,
you both are going through deep changes in your life, and that sometimes means to change friends, but if you were close, you will stay close forever.
2006-11-29 21:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by bayphoto3001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋