so i was with my boyfriend and we didn't have sex because im only 15...but we did do what most other teens do...fool around. right after he left my house i starting thinking about what we did and i remembered that after he came...all he did was quickly wipe his hands off and then fingered me. im really worried now that i will get pregnent. i don't really keep track of my period..lol lazy i kno..so i dont kno if im missing it? everyone keeps telling me its so rare to get pregnant that way but im still really nervous and so is he. we both are totally not the type to have sex and get pregnant. my parents are SO uptight. thats the other thing.....i would seriously rather run away then tell them. but i dont want to leave all my friends and family behind! but i couldnt possibly stay if i ended up being pregnant.....ugh im SO worried. we didn't even have sex! it was so innocent.....lol welll for being a teenager at least.
2006-11-29 13:37:58 · 14 answers · asked by maddie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First off, you should not only be worrying about being pregnant. You should also be worrying about sexually transmitted infections (STI's). A woman can only get pregnant about 3 to 5 days a month, but you can catch a disease every single day.
You are most likely not pregnant, but if you have not gotten your period in 2 weeks, you should take a home test, or go to a free clinic and get a test. It's free and confidential, and they might even give you some condoms to protect yourself next time, and teach you ways to be safer if you want to learn.
You should not be exchanging body fluids with anyone (excluding saliva) unless you have both been tested for STI's. You should always be using protection for oral sex, intercourse or any other sexual activity that involves bodily fluids. Protect yourself. You are the only one who will.
You should also talk to your parents about sex. I'm not saying you should tell them what happened (I am not totally naive) but if you can have a conversation with them about sex, then it might not be so bad if something terrible like pregnancy were to ever happen. It will help you comunicate better with them
2006-11-29 13:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kellbell 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he had semen on his fingers then there is a chance. The odds are very low, but there is still a risk involved.
Has it been over a month since this happened? You could always take a home pregnancy test.
I would advise you to read up on sex and safer sex, because if you and your boyfriend are engaging in sexual activity, you should know what you are doing so you don't end up in this situation again.
Also, a great site for keeping track of your period is mycycle.com
You have to enter when you first get it for a few months, but after that they will predict it for you and even email you when you are about to get your period. It's a really useful site.
I wish the best for you, but you have to be really careful to protect yourself. I hope this is just a wake up call to you, and not the real deal.
Just in case if you turn out to be pregnant, trust me even though your parents might be the most strict in the world who you cannot talk to, talking to them would be a LOT better then going off to live on the streets. The streets can do things 100% worse then what your parents will ever do to you. In the end they are strict because they love and care about you, no matter how hard it is, it's far better to go to them for help first.
2006-11-29 21:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Quest4questions 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..it's techinically possible for you to get pregnant that way if he got live sperm all the way inside you but it's unlikely. So you can most likely breathe a sigh of relief.
All you can do if you aren't sure is to buy a home pregnancy test and take it in about 3 weeks (any sooner and you might not get accurate results).
However, I don't think you need to go that far unless you have sure signs like increased sense of smell (i'm talking REALLY strong) or vomiting that isn't a flu bug.
You sound responsible, though and I'm proud of you. If you do decide you two are going to have sex...GET protection and use it all the time. It's very easy to get pregnant. Just ask this Mommy of 3 who had a surprise blessing for her 3rd one just 3 months after I had baby #2. Babies are REALLY hard work if there are two of you with jobs and a house..but it would be really be hard for you so just keep on being responsible and thinking things through!
(And have him wash his hands better next time..I know it would most likely ruin the mood for him to get up and wash but you could keep antibacterial soap or baby wipes or something.)
2006-11-29 22:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can get pregnant without having FULL penetration but sperm dies with contact like his hands and stuff! Becareful hopefully you will learn you know! I had my first at 16 got married well and divorced and all that now i am expction #3 and remarried own a house and all that good stuff i wouldn't trade it but you know i have never got to go to a college dorm party my *** off for a month or go backpacking across europe! You know if you are achieving with out penetration there you go just be careful! pregnancy isn't aids you know you'd be lucky if that is all that happens you know! this guy might be ok you can only hope and who knows about anyother guy? you know! Just be careful! do it for love when you do!
2006-11-29 21:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by larvamama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you DID have sex. Maybe not intercourse, but wth do you call what you did? That IS sex. Could you be pregnant. . . it's possible. . . but probably not. The next time (if you are silly and stupid enough to do it again) might cost you. You could have a delayed period due to stress, but you are messing with FIRE!! Just because you have hormones does NOT mean you two have to give into them and your respect level for each other needs to be seriously checked. My point is DON'T BE STUPID (either of you) and mess around because you WILL get pregnant.
2006-11-29 22:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK...take a breath there. How well did he wipe his hands off? If he wiped them well, then chances are you're not pregnant. Wait until 14 days from when this happened and then take a test if you're still nervous.
2006-11-29 21:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to take a pregnancy test. And then take another one a couple weeks later if you're still freaking out about it. You're probably not pregnant, but strange things happen all the time.
2006-11-30 04:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way Jose, just chill. You said he wiped his hands so thats cool. Dont worry cuz there will be no need to run from home
2006-11-29 22:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt u pregenant other god dont like u second im scared 4 u just in case u have std now id rarther u email me and let me know how its going on email me back and tell me these qs
is your bf clean ?
does he look handsome ?
how old is he ?
where did he touch you exactley ?
what did he exactley aim or try to do ?
why did you do this ?
and we will tlk about it you must email me if u want help and il rarther u do this cuz i knowwat im talking about and i ought to be a counciler ok i need to tlk to u adioas for now
2006-11-29 22:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
you can't get pregnant by that way...since u did'nt have real sex and you were only ''fooling'' around...the only way you coulf get pregnant is when sperm enters u... just be careful about STI's cuz his hands may not be CLEAN...cuz u said he just wiped it...
2006-11-29 22:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by coffee [: 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋