Ok, What would you do if you were completly in love with someone and you were in love for the first time ever. You know that the other person feels some what the same way and you're tired of running. You haven't seen them in several months but you talked to them a couple of times. No real conversations per say but just general conversation. I haven't completly come out of the closet yet but I have accepted who I am. My only thing is that I haven't really told anyone about it ( my family in particular) but I really really want to see where this goes. They are like my other half. :) I think about them everyday. Should I just make a real one last go at it or should I just give it up? I'm sort of shy and stupid when it comes to this sort of thing. After all I am new to all of this and this is my first time being in love. What to do? What to do? What to do?
2006-11-29 13:21:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
what do you mean one last go of it? in the paragraph above you haven't mentioned that you've tried to take it anywhere. the only way to fail is to give up. just have another conversation. then another. if you're both on the same page what's the problem?
2006-11-29 13:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear Just Me,
If you are worried about your family finding out you are gay because you are in a serious relationship with this guy you love, don't be! You can still do it only it will be a little bit tricky, like when your parents ask you who you have been spending so much time with. Usually people 'glow' when they are in love so I am surprised that your family has not already picked up on this and has not been grilling you with all kinds of questions to find out whey you are in such a good mode all the time, why are happy all the time, etc., etc.. Just make sure the other guy knows this is the way it has to be with you, so he can make a choice around that as well.
One thing I would like to know, is why haven't you seen him in a couple of months? Does he live far away from where you live?
Also I find that a lot of parents who are in denial about their child being gay will be blinded to the love they have for somebody of the same sex and even though you two might be hanging out together a lot they think you are just really good platonic friends. As long as you and he don't do anything really risky in front of them like hold hand or kiss! I think the would clue in really fast if something like that happened. Anyway give it a try, see what happens and good luck with it. *hugs* JAC< in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
2006-11-29 14:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The worst thing to do is be afraid of your feelings and let it go. I agree with the other poster, you deserve to give yourself the chance to see how things with this person will work out. Being in love is a great thing. Yes, it's a risk, but that's part of every relationship. You might feel a whole lot better after you communicate all you are feeling to the person you like. I wish you the best!
2006-11-29 13:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should try flirting with her. Give her attention. You said that she feels somewhat the same. What are her signs she is giving you? If the signs point to liking you, then at least give it a try. *smiles* Who knows, she could like you too but is just as afraid. ???
What would I do? I'd look her in her eyes more-do things for her to show I cared-talk to her more-etc...
Good luck and blessings!
Edit---
I realized I just said "her". Ehh, same applies if it is a "he". :P Oh, and I realized you haven't seen them? If you talk to them over the phone, ask to hang out and tell them how you feel. You may regret telling 'em, but won't you rather know you said something rather than living on to "what if"?
2006-11-29 14:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why haven't youseen or talked to them in a couple of months?? If this were real love, there would be more communication and visits????????????? I'm confused here? And no real conversations????????????How do you know the other person feels this way, if it was general conversation????????
2006-11-29 15:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
believe it or not. but what you described to this site is not out of the ordinary. i fell in love with a lot of guys who are straight. obviously because there are a lot more straight guys than there are gays out there. so make your move(as awkward as it is) use your best judgment, and you will find out about yourself like any other gay person has. unfortunately there isnt a book to teach you. the only thing i can offer as advise is to accept who you are. then do what is in your best interest. coming out of the closet isnt easy. but neither is living your life in the closet. best of luck.
2006-11-29 13:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by shyboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. At least take a chance, love is worth that much. If you don't, you could spend your whole life wondering what *could've* happened. At least if you try, you'll know. Take your chances. Then, if things don't end up the way you wanted them to, you can move on and get on with your life. It won't be easy, but giving up never solves anything, rather, it destroys any of the chances you might've had.
2006-11-29 13:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just go for them! If you want a relationship with that person then make a move or spend the rest of your life contemplating what could have been.
2006-11-29 17:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HY HONS GAY BOYFRIENDS DAVIIE AND STEEVIE HONS DONT GIVE UP HONS LIFE IS JUST TOO SHORT HONS, YOU HAVE ALREADY ACCEPTED THE FACT YOU ARE GAY HONS. IF THIS IS TRULLY YOUR FELINGS HONS AND YOU ARE TRUULLY GAY IN THE EYES OF THE LORD HONS NEVER GIVE UP HONS.FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR INNNERR NEDS HONS.
2006-11-29 13:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋