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I've tried to move on. I can't. i want him back. I cannot live without him. How do I get him to want me back??

2006-11-29 13:04:49 · 25 answers · asked by Amber L 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Stop thinking like this. If you fell in love once, then you can fall in love again. You are in mourning right now over the loss of your relationship which was a secure place for you. Like anyone in mourning, you have to go through the stages of grief (or just call it 'sadness' in your case). You have to hunker down and take care of yourself right now. You have to heal and get your self esteem back. You cannot pin your while life on another person. Surround yourself with friends, family right now. If you are alone, then seek some guidance from your doctor who can recommend a therapist or psychologist who can help you get control of your sadness and move on from the pain of the break-up.

2006-11-29 13:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1 0

You cannot make someone love you or want you if they don't want to. Move on. A perfect book to help you is titled: "How to Survive the Loss of Love". Buy this book (it's in paperback) and I promise you it will help you survive this painful heartbreak. No boyfriend is worth dying for. There are better ones out there. I know this from experience. Stop thinking of the good times and realize how wrong it all was. Be brave and hang in there. Rely on the support of friends. You will get over this. You just need some time. Get a journal and write down your feelings. Keep busy. Do volunteer work and see how much more miserable others are then you. Count your blessings.

2006-11-29 13:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nose 2 · 0 0

OMG! Been there done that! I won't tell you the whole story....it's a few years long *lol* but anyway when me and my guy headed for the rocks and I knew he wasan't taking us serious anymore I was crushed! I lost all interest in everthing I loved to do and going places with my friends! I just sat in my room and cried all the time....I even cried myself to sleep at night! But I had to learn that I had to move on and that life does go on too! I went through all the stages too, I wanted him back so bad, I couldn't live without him! I don't think you two should get back together unless you two talk and make a decision you both agree on to get together or to seperate forever or take some time apart! But I would not want to make someone take me back....I know....I tried!!! It only makes you look desperate!!! And I know you're better than that girl! Just get out there and meet someone new! Here's what I did...call him up and tell him how you feel! Tell him you want an answer once and for all....do you want to get back together or not and you want an answer right at that moment!!!! Whatever he says let it be final....if he says yes then ask him where do you go form here....if he say no then say your good-byes and leave it at that! It worked for me and I think you should do the same. So take it from someone who know right where you're comming from!!!!!! I wish you good luck in the future and in whatever you decided to do but remember you are special and you deserve only the best and it's your job to get out there and find it!!!!! PEACE

2006-11-29 13:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea1987 2 · 0 0

I've been there. X wife of 20 years left me and our son when he was 11,I was at my wits end and thought I wanted her back at any cost, even tho she moved to a different state to be with another man. I got over it and on with my life,awhile later I met a loving lady, raised my son . I'm now happily living life with her. I know it's hard when it happens but normally works out for the best. Take my word you don't really want him back, because the real thing will be along soon. Trust me!!

2006-11-29 13:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Les Gramps 5 · 0 0

Pray! Remember "never make someone a priority when they only make you an option." People come and go but don't let them have control over you. Find things that are fun and time consuming to do right now. Life goes on and evidently he has other plans. So that the weak go with the weak and you stay strong:0) Don't even bother with him b/c he has clearly shown you what he is about.

2006-11-29 13:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by HOTMAMI06 2 · 0 0

Sweetie, you will be ok.

You should never get so wrapped up in a man that he becomes your entire existence. You have given your power away to this man. You are the one who determines your destiny and your happiness. That has to come from inside. You can't depend on him to make you happy or make you ok.

Your life is worth living without him in the picture. I'm sorry you are hurting but you will get through it. You have to change your attitude first though.

Try seeing the positive things in your life. There has to be something. Don't you have dreams or aspirations apart from him? Concentrate on those.

Feel free to email me if you like. :)

2006-11-29 13:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I know how you feel, but thinking about it isn't going to help and only going to make it worse. But if you really want him back, may I suggest you "turn the tables" on him? It will be hard to do I know, you need great control and perseverance. From this day on, don't take his calls (oh he will call), if you see him, don't acknowledge him, and at all times, look your best and be/act happy........trust me, he will wonder why the break up hasn't affected you, (we know it did, he doesn't have to know that) and he will come to you, but you have to refuse him the first time OK?It is here that the ball lands in your court, you then play hard to get......(I have tried this technique myself, it works)..until then, have a night out with the girls.....remember to be good to yourself.

2006-11-29 13:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by PAV 1 · 0 0

We have all been there. All I can say is that I dont know any one who died because she got dumped. Its is his loss. Move on to someone else there are plenty of guys out there. You will be okay. Just get up and say to yourself, I deserve to love and be loved. There is someone out there for you someone who deserves what you bring to a relationship. So just live each day. OK. You will be fine.

2006-11-29 13:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-11-29 23:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

first of all how old are u? well anyways these days happened to me at one point in my life i wanted to commit suicide..tried cutting my wrist a couple of times..but i learned that life goes on and you have to move on too..no matter how hard it may be..you should find another guy and when you do Ur ex might see what he is missing and might want you back.if not then its okay b/c there's better guys out there then him..you'll be okay...don't worry...your days will get better..

good luck...

2006-11-29 13:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by brittany 1 · 0 0

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