just found out my hubby has twin sons born last month?

Question

I am devastated.do not know what to do?

We have been married for 7yrs.They were conceived when we were married.They are about one month old.I am 7months pregnant with his 5th child now apparently.I feel like telling all his other girlfriends

Answer 1

This is so sad. I read one of your other questions and my heart goes out to you. Surely you deserve better.

Answer 2

I've taken about 30 minutes writing out an answer that I hoped would really help you to decide (by yourself) as to what you should do about this situation,

Then when I posted it I noticed the additional comments you'd put. So I've edited my first message as I don't think it would have done you a lot of good. You know he has at least 5 Children including the one you're carrying now. You say you feel like going & telling all his other g/f's

WHAT THE FUKC IS THE MATTER WITH YOU???

My God! it’s not often I’m stumped for words, but this is one of those times.

Tell his fukking g/f's I'd be taking a knife to his jugular right now. Tell his g/f's? HELLOOOOO! Reality check,

If you don't give a shitt about your own future then at least have a bit of respect for the Child you're going to be giving birth to soon.

I actually felt sorry for you. Do you know what? It’s human nature to take the p.iss, we all need boundaries. That's how we are.

If you lay on the floor in front of a busy high street shop, to begin with people would insist that you get up. if you refused to get up after a little while those same people would start stepping over you in order to get into the store, leave it a few weeks & I'll guarantee that those very same people would start to tread on your hands & feet in order to get into the store.

How long do you think it would take them before they were treading on your face & body in order to get where they want to go, could you complain?? Hardly! Because you're the one that keeps laying there while everyone is treading on you.

WAKE UP & GET UP

The answer as to what to do depends entirely on what you think you’re worth. Because it's very easy to see what your Husband thinks you're worth.
You are sending off some serious "treat me with contempt" vibes

No-one will feel sorry for anyone that allows stuff like this to continue in their lives, no-one respects anyone that allows this to continue in their lives, if you can't honestly see why you shouldn't be hanging around this giant sized Bas.tard then you honestly need to get a lot of help to learn how to love & respect yourself. then & only then can you expect others to do the same.

Answer 3

Let me give you a detailed plan of action- Pack kids, and clothes , take debit card form mutual bank account. Drive to bank remove all cash except 50£. Get on Birth Control after your 5Th child is born.Go down to local solicitor office get 30 minute consult. File for divorce , child support for all five kids.Have child support automatically drafted out of his wages.Arrange weekend visits for him 2 pick up all 5 children.Move on with life and dont have anymore kids.

Answer 4

Consult with a family law attorney! You may have to get a divorce from you cheating spouse. You have insure that you and YOUR CHILDREN with your husband have a good solid child support order.

Regarding additional details: You need a pit bull terrier of an attorney to help you through this mess. Your husband will need a court order to be a man about his responsibilities. He is NOT A MAN. With all those children all he's proven is that he is a male animal.

You are the lawful wife, and think YOU and your unborn child should have first crack at the child support.

Answer 5

How long have you guys been married? Did he conceive while you were together? How did you find out? You need to consider how far he is willing to go to lie to you and then try to establish if you can trust him.

Don't make this so much about the fact that he has children, more about the fact that he lied to you. Lying is a serious sign, because it means he can't be trusted.

Answer 6

How awful for you!!! If you stay with this person remember he will have to pay double child support! What a slap in the face!! I would get out while the gettins good. Sorry, but be strong. Good luck

Answer 7

Take a deep breath. Do blood tests confirm he is the father? Make sure the woman isn't lying. If he admits he's been cheating, then you have proof, too. Is he remorseful? How long have you been married? Can you forgive him, if he's sorry? Can you accept these babies into your life? Do you want to stay with this man? You have to talk to your husband and make some decisions after your talk. That's a pretty bad blow. He cheated and now he has children by another woman. I am sorry for you.

Answer 8

First, do not do anything crazy. Secondly you have started doing something: you are talking about it. This means therefore, that you have accepted the reality and you are not denying it Extremely important.
continue on this trend. talk about to to someone even the trees. writer about how you feel. Get a journal and spill your guts every time you feel the hurt. Give vent to your emotion and cry sometimes. Do not confront him.
Get some friends to talk to who will seek to understand you and to be there for you. use this path for about six months. Then later you decide whether you want to continue the relationship or you want to divorce him. I wish you the best

Answer 9

This is going to affect you for the rest of your life. He is financially responsible for these boys. Which means you are too. How does that make you feel? At the very least, you two need counseling. Good Luck Because your life will never be the same.

Answer 10

Remove yourself from the picture honey and let him go and play daddy. If he's managed to hide this from you all this time, I can only imagine what other skelatons are hiding in his closet.

I know it's going to be hard, but do you really want to wait for another knock at the door with some more news of other babies? He's going to be working for the next 18 years just to pay child support...do you really want to be dragged down with that? Especially since he didn't truly love you to begin with? (men who love their wives, don't cheat).

You already know what to do hon, you are just looking for some reassurance. GO with your heart, it never steers you wrong.

Answer 11

OMG. How horrible for you. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Do you want to salvage this marriage? If so, you need to take time to deal with this. Maybe you need a trial separation for the time being to get yourself together, and then perhaps counseling for you both afterward.

If not, then you need to leave him and depend on family and friends and God to help you through it. Do not try to go it alone.

Good luck in your life...sorry this happened.

He's an a.s.s.