2006-11-29 12:58:20 · 8 answers · asked by kim d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
leave her alone. as long as shes not out driving around, i think she's ok.
2006-11-29 13:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key here is to have her teach herself about having a healthy relationship with alcohol. If you come across to her as a big Nazi, and lecture her constantly about the drinking, she will just rebel and do it anyway. Not that I'm advocating being the "cool mom" either. I think there needs to be one serious discussion about it, nothing more.
My mom set the guidelines for me like this:
It's okay to drink at home, with adult supervision, but not to get drunk. (ie: wine with dinner) IF you have a drink though, you aren't allowed to leave the house that day, and no phone for the night. So, if you crack open a wine cooler after dinner, you can't go to the movies if your friends call you up, you're in for the night, and you can't talk on the phone. If you are ever caught breaking these rules, or if I even suspect that you have, you will lose all your privileges until I feel I can trust you again. However long that takes.
I think it worked well because it taught me to have a healthy relationship with alcohol, not to abuse it. It took the taboo of drinking away, so I didn't really want to do it. Plus, after not being able to go out with my friends, or even talk to them at all for a few nights I lost all interest in alcohol.
2006-11-29 13:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is difficult to answer. It depends on what sort of relationship you have with your daughter. And how much she trusts you and your opinion. She should know that you are disappointed that she would do this sort of thing. Explain to her that bad things can happen to her while she is under the influence. She could be raped and alcohol can lead to an addiction. It is important that you develop a good relationship with your daughter and that she can look up to you. This is may be hard to do when she is at this time in her life. You might look at your own drinking habits and evaluate what she may find appropriate from your example. In the words of some one better versed than myself, "rebuke with kindness" try the whole guilt trip thing. It always worked on me.
2006-11-29 13:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Eli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punish her. Don't get into the psychobabble thing where you're trying to analyze her, or reason with her. Too many people waste time trying to be brilliant child psychologists, and they fail miserably and their kids keep drinking and doing drugs. She's a 15-year old, and was drinking simply because she's a 15 year old trying the forbidden fruit. Give her a REASON to not want to EVER do it again while she's under age and living under your roof. Keep it simple and firm.
2006-11-29 13:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are telling as if you don't drink when you are 15?
The more you keep away from her,the more she will try to drink it.
Liquor at young age is bad for health,not her main concern though.
What you can do is talk and light punishment.
2006-11-29 13:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance to talk to you about it. Maybe stuff is going on that you don't know about. Peer pressure, boyfriends, school all take a toll on a child just like everyday stuff does on adults. Take her to a place she is comfortable (not like the kitchen table) and just ask her to talk to you. If you yell, she will take that as the right thing to do and do it to you right back.
2006-11-29 13:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by samantha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish her, and tell her about the dangers of drinking.
2006-11-29 13:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disipline her! If you dont, she will do it again and think its okay to get away with.
2006-11-29 13:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋