Why do I not care?

Question

I can turn my emotions completely off. Is this normal? And I don't know if I am supressing my true feelings and convincing myself that I don't care, or if I really am just emotionless. I don't feel anything.

Answer 1

sometimes our environment can be responsible for the way we respond to things.

A very abrasive environment can shut us off so that we can barely feel.

I encourage you to try to be around people that are loving. And by their actions not just their words.

Read the bible. Learn who jesus was. Listen to his teaching.


I hope you know that you are special by just being yourself.

And I love you.

There is only one like you in the whole world.

And God loves you too.

You can pray to him. And love him back.


I hope you start to feel.

Answer 2

Well I guess you could say it's normal, but it's not exactly healthy/good for you. Absolutely everyone learns when they're a kid to deal with life in different ways, you're quite similar to me, I'm actually quite sensitive and to cover that up I've learnt to trick myself into thinking that I don't care. I'm starting to realize now that I do. You're basically just trying to protect yourself, it's as if it's now just a habit for you. What I suggest you do is find a good friend or two that will listen to you so you can express yourself. When something in life happens tell them, whether it's getting fired or getting a new job or anything at all that would normally/or does have emotion involved and don't just tell them what happened tell them how you feel about it. If you don't have anyone you can trust with your feelings then find some, I know that's easier said than done but you need to have people you can trust! And when your ready tell them about your dilemma and ask if they can help you by asking you how you feel when different things happen. It takes work, and it's not easy, but you can feel, and it feels good most of the time.

Answer 3

This is your "ego defense mechanism" working to protect you from certain feelings. It will be important that you explore this issue and attempt to better understand the issue(s) you may be defending from. It is a human condition to experience this sort of thing, and its ok. The hardest part is to recognize that you are doing it. Since the hard part is complete, now its time to work on your coping skills to deal with the issue(s) in a positive way. Talking with a professional counselor and/or therapist would be a great way to better identify the issues and gain insight into new coping skills. Just remember, you are worth getting help. Your quality of life is worth finding/developing new positive skills. What you are experiencing, millions are are/have/will experience. You are not alone, however, you are responsible for making the change. Professional help may be the key to better guide your needs and future success. Best of luck with your future work, and keep working through the process, and the process will work for you.

Answer 4

It's normal because it means that you don't want to be affected or you don't want to get hurt in that situation so you just have to feel and show that you don't care. You also won't show emotions because you want others to see you as a tough person. To some people, showing emotions is a sign of weakness but it's not true. All you have to do is be yourself. You don't have to convince yourself that you don't care if you really don't care. Try not to convince yourself that you don't care if you truly care. Get it? Good luck!

Answer 5

I do the same thing,I dont like showing what I feel or rather I hate to have to feel something,I hate that.I think,that's only me,emotions are like a disease,it stops me from being healthy.I have a family,a father,mother,brother,one half-brother and two half-sisters,but I dont or even if I try cant really establish a dialogue.I feel guilty about it from time to time but when I try and it gets too emotional, I back off and regret that I tried.On the news when I see death,destruction,poverty,I donot really feel sad,sorry,angry like you I dont feel anything.What I like is to live my life,life is short and I as egoistical as it may seem,I just want to be as deattach as possible from close relationship with people,objects.
What I know is it's not really normal to be emotionless but hiding or controlling emotions are a mean of defense for most people.Emotions are what make us 'humans',but someone who dont feel anything or dont want to feel anything is more human as they understand what emotions are and the effect it has on life.
It's just my opinion.

Answer 6

it sounds like you've been hurt or wounded deeply by some person or occurrence in your life. maybe you're afraid to show your emotions because it would make you vulnerable to more hurt and pain. you don't have to live like this.
seek the assistance of a psychiatrist or psychologist you need to explore these feelings to come to an understanding what is making you feel emotionless. once that destination has been reached, examined, and resolved, you can begin the path to showing emotions and trusting people.
i give you this advice based on my own past experiences.
please go for help. please!
best of luck----being sincerely sent

Answer 7

Sometimes I feel like that too. I guess it comes with hopelessness and feelings of inadequacy. When you feel that you can't cope, you just shut yourself down because it will hurt too much otherwise.


Things you can do that might help you feel normal again:

Maintain a POSITIVE outlook on life.

Take CARE of yourself--you might not be getting enough sleep or nutrition.

Do something you LOVE to do.

PRAY or meditate. Have faith that everything will be okay and is okay. Look at the simple things in life and be grateful for them.

Be GENEROUS--helping others is proven to make you feel better.

SMILE--even when you don't feel like it, after a few minutes, you WILL feel like it.

BELIEVE in yourself. Take one thing at a time and you'll be done with it in no time!

Look FORWARD. There are still so many things to experience. Fulfill your dreams, fall in love, stay in love, make a difference and help others.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like you're just honest with yourself. There's alot of crap that society suggests we feel good or bad about. When I pass by a horrible car crash with guts spread out all over the road....I kind of feel bad....but I don't REALLY REALLY feel bad, you know?

Answer 9

Sounds like depression. Might want to talk to somebody about it, because it can be helped.

Answer 10

when your security is gone the world looks different