If so anyone have suggestions on how
2006-11-29 12:55:14 · 16 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am just going through this very same situation by myself. I don't think so, there is usually so much pain involved to be resolved by usually one side?!
2006-11-29 12:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a hope and possibility of rekindling love but alot depends on what has led to the division in your marriage. Many factors lead to the dissolution of marriage like money, health, sex, communication, adultery...and the list goes on. The main thing is step back take a deep soul breath and evaluate your marriage, what the problems are and how you think you and your partner can deal with them and ask yourself if either of you are capable of changing the path of your marriage. Marriage and life are an ever growing and changing force and it takes work to keep things on the right path love and lust are never enough for they are just a part of the bigger picture. Above all communication is the key you started with that in the beginning do not abandon that now....and if you need help and both have to agree by all means seek counseling with family, friends or professional. As bad as things seem or tend to get before you leave your love behind know in your heart you personally did all you could or there will always be regret. That being said if there is abuse get out immediately repairs can be found but only long after the other has got help and can prove they are a new person and not just with words. Adultery is tough for it is a direct blow to the heart and seldom can be repaired for it gets all tangled up with trust but a few have made it even then. Good Luck and best wishes....
2006-11-29 21:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by kjustmep_43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It all depends on how you got to the point of divorce.
A lot of times, divorce happens because the husband and wife don't communicate properly. Misunderstandings happen, and build up and build up until everything explodes. Maybe one partner cheats out of frustration, maybe one partner walks out, etc.
The only possible way back from the brink is to start communicating properly. If you've managed to go through a whole marriage without communication, then you'll need professional help to learn how to do it. That means marriage counselling.
If the other party won't come along at first, you can go on your own, and the counsellor will help you develop strategies to get your partner to participate.
2006-11-29 21:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ofcourse anything is possible if there is still love !! Been there myself. You must work out what the reason was for your near divorce in the first place and change it. Communication to me is always a major factor or lack of it should l say. If you have any love at all for each other, that's a great start. Just work on where you both feel you went wrong. For it to work you must both agree on how to fix your problems. Talk to each other, discuss everything openly and honestly. There has to be mutual respect for one another. If you feel in your heart that your marriage is worth fixing, Go for it, give it your all and anything is possible. I wish you all the luck you need.
2006-11-29 21:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Caught my wife cheating about 2 yrs ago. We were on the brink of war! After the many sessions of therapy and realizing that yes we really loved each other, this was a new beginning to a whole new relationship. I had always told my sefl that if I ever caught my wife cheating I would throw her out on the spot!! Didn't work that way in reality! It can be done!!!!
2006-11-29 21:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by ateez9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason that most people get divorces is because there is something that is to painful to work out. So i dont think that there is a good chance after a divorce to get back together
2006-11-29 21:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by terri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of hard work, and both parties have to want the same goal. I have seen couples in therapy where one of them had their mind made up that it isn't going to work. I also have seen people start going to a nice easy going church and becoming involved in the meetings they have. One of the rules in couples therapy is when emotions are involved people have a tendency to say and do the wrong things. The church uses different words and the bible says the same thing. Find something you both will enjoy attending and you both put 100% into.
2006-11-29 21:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dhaircutta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that and yes. My wife and I were in the middle of our divorce and through constant prayer we got back together. That was 5 yrs ago and we will be celebrating our 11th anneversary this coming Feb. We are both happier now than we have ever been.
2006-11-29 22:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by jddm624 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you go together for counseling to find out what went wrong with your marriage in the first place, so it doesn't happen again. Pamela Anderson and Kid Rock made the same mistakes again. Obviously, no counseling.
2006-11-29 20:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) As long as you both are breathing, absolutely. My marriage has been there and I'm sooooo glad we chose to swallow our prides, get counselling and deal with our issues. Our children are also thankful for this. Our marriage is happier now than I ever dreamed it could be. I wish you the same happiness. Read the links below from Dr. Phils website. Peace :-)
2006-11-29 23:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling as well as letting the other person know how you feel. Divorce is the easy way out. You put together your vows for a reason, don't back out, let that person know what is up and why you feel stuck.
2006-11-29 21:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋