I have had this rolling through my mind cause my boyfriend is a virgin and im a mother of three ....... I love him but i dont know if it is truely fair to him to marry me knowing that he has saved his virginity for marriage and I have not ........ I have three children ...... would you follow your heart and marry him or would you follow your mind in which tells you it isnt fair to him .........
2006-11-29 12:54:12 · 10 answers · asked by silent_crys_of_the_damned 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He loves you so it won't matter at all to him. Don't worry over this, he already knows you are not virgin. He has saved his virginity for marriage and not necessarly for another virgin.
2006-11-29 12:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He know about it when he saw your three children.He still ask you to marry him,means he love you.Fair?As in the sense that you have been with somebody else first before him.
2 solutions for you,
First, is get a girl to sleep with them,then you guys are tie.Is that what you want?
OR
Second,I assume that you are divorcee,means you are married before,which means you don't go around sleeping with guys.
If you are in a marriage,means you love your ex-husband and have sex based on love.You also wish,(I believe) that your marriage will be everlasting one.But it didn't.Its no one fault.
Why you want to let your heart down because of a failure.
Remember this failure and make the next one a success
2006-11-29 21:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe that if the pair of you really love each other then it shouldn't matter. If the guy proposes to you (or agrees to marry you) then he is obviously ok with the fact that you are not a vgirgin. You should talk to him about so he knows how you feel - but if he says he is ok with it then take his word for it. This is no reason not to follow your heart
2006-11-29 21:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by ThatsMe!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2006-11-29 21:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you, then your virginity (or lack thereof) is not an issue. Personally, I would love to have married a virgin...you can teach them all about the sexual side of love without worrying about being compared to a former lover of theirs.
2006-11-29 21:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by nrdeshotel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you have children out of wedlock from what you are saying, if so, do the guy a HUGH favor and tell him to get someone deserving of him.
If I am reading you wrong, I apologize.
Think long and hard about what you are saying either way !!!!
2006-11-29 21:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by "Hooks" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come with a lot of baggage. Does he love you? Does he love your kids? Do you love him? These are questions you two have to answer. Good Luck
2006-11-29 20:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and he should do the same, if it's love then that's all that really matters.
2006-11-29 20:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question... Would you buy a pair of shoes before trying them on? I don't think so..
2006-11-29 21:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by The Man 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
since when do chics care about whats fair
2006-11-29 20:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋