almost all my friends are really outgoing and loud..but one of them thats not in our group isnt at all
.. shes so shy and quiet and the real her is so funny and nice! how to i get her to come out of her shell?
2006-11-29 12:49:21 · 6 answers · asked by Mazi C 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I guess she just has to find a place where she feels comfortable being herself. I used to be shy too but when I joined some activities in which I really had fun and was dedicated to, I became less conscious of what others might think because I am secure with what I am doing.
Maybe you can both join an activity she enjoys. In that way, she would not be uncomfortable to new people because she's with you but at the same time, she is able to discover more about herself by being committed to a cause she believes in.
2006-11-29 12:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am exactly like your friend, it wouldn't surprise me if she is cancer, I take a fair while to get to know but as all my close friends say when you get to know me I'm the best friend ever! Funny, trustworthy, loyal, all of that stuff! But it's not necessarily a bad thing, she may like having close friends only, I'm a bit like that myself, I don't see the point in making a big fuss over people I just met. But it does make it hard to make friends because people can think your a snob and all of that, but if she's only young she will probably grow out of it. I'm 22 and I'm only now starting to become comfortable with new people and letting a bit more of myself out when I meet new people.
But all I can suggest you to do is just let her be, if you try to change her she might trust you less because even though you do like her the way she is, she might take it the wrong way (even if she doesn't say so). The more loving and accepting friends she has, the more she'll be able to be herself and become comfortable with it.
2006-11-29 21:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by kittyandcj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was painfully shy until I was about 25. I think one thing that helped was taking an acting class at university. It really REALLY took me out of my comfort zone, but gave me heaps of confidence too.
It's up to her, though, there's not much you can do except encourage her, and let her know that you value her for who she is and that she has a voice worth listening to.
2006-11-29 20:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can encourage her to talk to others and get more comfortable around them, but in the end there's not much you can do. She'll have to change herself; you never know, she might like being shy.
2006-11-29 20:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by theplaidbadger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her, try to involve her yet don't give her special treatment as such as she may feel more out of place.
2006-11-29 22:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit hounding her she will be there when she is ready
2006-11-29 20:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋