2006-11-29 12:19:50 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel V 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Every part of it is painful.
Each decision brings up new memories.
This helped me.
What was the person like? Did that person believe in an after life with God?
If so, try and make it a celebration of their life and a testimony to how many peoples lives they touched.
We are separated from them for a short time. You're loved one I pray is with the Lord who created them and now has them back.
I know I was sad because my dad was no longer around to be here for me. It was and is a self oriented grief, for he no longer suffers and he is with the Lord and I will see him again.
He will be whole, free of pain, able to rejoice and spend eternity with me.
When you pick flowers, what kind did they like? Pick them.
When you have your service, tell of great and funny stories, celebrate their life.
Have people when they come over after bring their favorite foods.
If they had special things they loved, bring them to place at the grave.
Have people bring over special photos and the stories that went with them, put them all in a scrapbook, keep the original and copy it for the people who contributed.
Remember, they are never gone as long as they are in your heart. Then, they live forever.
It will be hard and a blur, bring someone with you who can help you in all ways.
I am so sorry for your loss.
God Bless you and I will pray for you
Susie
2006-11-29 12:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by wildmedicsue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a licensed funeral director for over forty years, I can tell you that there is no one specific part of planning a funeral that is more difficult that another. Some people have difficulty just coming into a funeral home. Others have difficulty in providing information for an obituary as they reflect upon the persons life. Some find it very difficult to look at and select a casket. Many people have difficulty in viewing the remains of the deceased for the first time as it is visual proof that the person is dead. It is totally normal to be in a state of denial when first learning of a persons death. I was that way when my own father died.
There are some people who handle everything fairly well, but when to go to the cemetery for the first time and see the grave, or the persons name on a granite or bronze marker, it is very blunt and realistic proof the person is dead.
If I had to pinpoint one specific point of a funeral that is the most emotional, it would be just before the casket is being closed for the last time, either from viewing or simply identification. The family knows it is the last time they will see the body of that person. It is saying good-bye for the last time. Another way of putting it is that there may be no pare of planning a funeral that is not difficult.
2006-12-03 12:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to do the planning while the person is still alive (pre-need funeral arrangement). Most funeral homes offer this. That way when you actually do need the funeral, all of the arrangements are done and it's easier on everyone involved.
2006-11-29 20:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by brioma33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Writing the eulogy. Also, just the cost in general. Its very expensive if you let them take advantage of your weakness. They talk about air and water seal caskets and try to make you feel guilty. Buy what you can afford, the flowers cover the entire casket most of the time anyways. I found the most difficult thing was waiting for relatives to come from across country, I wish the funeral was quicker, it made it worse waiting.
2006-11-29 20:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The entire thing. You never wanted to lose that person, and you'd do anything to get them back. Planning the funeral is not all negative though. 1) you know they are in a much more peaceful place now, 2) you reflect upon the achievements they made in their life, and 3) you have all the memories, which hopefully will never fade.
2006-11-29 20:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
The most difficult thing is controlling the deep grief and emotional loss and looking normal while giving emotional support to others who need it or broken due to this loss. Have U ever gone through this ?
2006-11-29 20:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Hashmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With us it was who was going to be the pallbearers. We have a very large family on both sides and you never want to hurt anybodies feeling by saying no
2006-11-29 20:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by mindy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying goodbye and letting them go.
2006-11-29 20:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shopping for a casket
2006-11-29 20:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Albert H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋