I'm 21, and i have a bf for 4 months who lives in hawaii. he goes back here in the philippines every year around May. We've been friends for almost 5 years now, and i've been his bestfrnd when i was 17. We just got together this year. I love him so much and i wish i could spend the rest of my life with him. i get so sad and lonely thinking that i have to wait for 5 more months for him to get back here. what are the things that i can think of so that i wouldn't get this sad? and what are the things that i must do in order to maintain this relationship. he's also willing to make this work, and we both love each other. im close to his family and they are nice. How can i make him happy even though he's so far away from me?
2006-11-29 12:15:59 · 13 answers · asked by istin_16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you for the answers.. ok let me tell you the situation...
-everyday we talk
-if we dont have foncards, we chat
-he's gonna live here in the philippines after studying there and he's gonna graduate this year
-his family lives here
-i've seen him go through different relationships and i know every detail of his life
-he used to study here.. he was my classmate in college before
2006-11-29 12:24:21 · update #1
My husbands in the military and deploys for a year + at a time. The best advice that I can give you is to just stick it out. Think of how great it's going to be when you're finally together again.
When i think of something that I need/want to tell my husbad I write it down and then at the end of the week I send it to him. No matter how silly or stupid it may seem. This week I wrote down that I hate the color of our kitchen towel, it's small and may seem like nothing to me but being there for the small things are the things we miss the most.
2006-11-29 12:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by pixi_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last two bfs have been long distance, and we did not break up due to long distance. In fact, for some of the time, I preferred long distance but that is because it was a certain time in my life (school, work - too much)...
The things that worked best esp with the last guy was that we called each other daily or more than once per day. Also, we wrote each other emails quite often and had an understanding it would take effort from both of us!!
2006-11-29 20:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Shanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
constant communication. constant. it will not work otherwise since you almost never see each other.
do thoughtful things for each other write,letters, send flowers/cards... you could rent the same movie and watch it at the same time while chatting on the internet, etc.
hope it works out for you... but keep in mind that LDR's are really only temporary, you should come up with a plan for either you to move there or him to move to you or it will eventually become too draining and it will end.
2006-11-29 20:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia_Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just being honest... long-distance relationships are very hard to sustain. First off, make sure that he's an honest person.. then its really up to u both to sustain it through honest communication.
2006-11-29 20:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboop 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I agree with the previous answers. They are right. Seriously, get a guy who you can actually have a relationship with, not a phone buddy.
2006-11-29 20:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by I'm alive .. still 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go live with him or live in his town or tell him to live near you. Or you can sometimes visit him surprisingly every now and then
2006-11-29 20:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Orange? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with each other, visit each other if possible, and no cheating on each other. Does that anwser your question.
2006-11-29 20:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by ladybrittlcs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you, do always send him text messages that saying you missed him alot...
Call him sometimes...
Don't forget that unloyalty killed the love...
2006-11-29 20:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by I think this is useful you see 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you have been talking to him for a while you are going to start runnin out of stuff to talk about. you will be talking just to talk to eachother. find stuff to talk about. dont talk to just talk.
2006-11-29 20:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep callin him and he keep callin you, email, text, and anything possible, and if you still have friends there, let them watch him for you, or dump him and and get a new bf who lives there
2006-11-29 20:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Russell C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋