Can you ever forgive a cheating wife?

Question

she had an affair with someone at work for 6 months until I caught them in-fraganti

Answer 1

well that is a decision only you can make and only you can decide if you can forgive her too.., but yes it can be done it is hard and takes along time .before you trust her again.but you need to find out what caused this and if you all were having problems before.i am not trying to justify what she did or place blame but women all women like to feel special and loved, sexy and alive and if you fail to give her the attention she wants then yes someone else will . no that does not make it right. it makes her weak but only you have the right to decide what to do good luck you seem like a real nice man and you must really love her and that is what it takes good luck

Answer 2

Some people can, some people can't. A lot depends on your personality, her behaviour, and your circumstances.

You can't possibly forgive until you understand WHY she cheated. That means you have to talk to her. If she can give you a clear reason for cheating - like she felt you were neglecting her or she was under stress - then it's worth making an effort to forgive and try again. It may not seem like a very good reason to you, but it may have been something that was really distressing her. Give her a chance to explain and do your best to understand.

If she can't give you a reason, or if she tries to blame the guy, then I would think very hard before you take her back. If she can cheat for no reason once, she'll do it again one day. And no man, however charming and sexy, can seduce a married woman who doesn't want to be seduced.

Answer 3

If your wife had an affair for that long and you didn't ever see it was happening that's why she had the affair.........
but also she had an affair for 6 months with this man then she really doesn't want to be with you no mater how much she says she dose it will happen again if she did it once she'll do it again ......... sorry for you loss but end it before it gets worse

Answer 4

Whether you have the capacity to forgive is entirely up to you. If I were in your shoes, I would be asking myself why she cheated. When someone cheats it is either because they are not getting something they want from the one they are with, or they incapable of really loving someone.
It would probably due you good if you asked her why she cheated and what she was looking for that she couldn't find in you.

I'm not saying she was right for doing, but people usually have reasons for cheating.

Answer 5

No, no. no! Perhaps you think my answer is harsh? Is capitol punishment harsh? Both answers are yes. They both share in the same aspect of punishment for a deliberate, planned, and executed action. Premeditation, sir, is what I read from '6 months'. This was not a single incident, this was someone turning their back on you. I am very sorry and I sincerely hope you understand that there is better for you out there and that you are not to blame for the insanity of this person who has so deeply hurt you. Ever think back to when you were alone and you took care of yourself? Ask that person what they think you should do. Trust in yourself.

Answer 6

Yes you can forgive a cheating wife but to be honest with you.....the trust is totally gone. Without trust, you have nothing in a marriage. I thing I would cut my losses and move on.

Answer 7

Speaking from personal experience i forgave my ex and then the ***** just did it again a year later with the same guy. Now i pay child support witch is bull ****. And i only see my son every other weekend and he calls that bastard hes other dad. I just can't wait till it happens to her. ******* **** nothing hurts like mayters of the heart. But in her deffence she did till me how unhappy she was prior to cheating. Witch doesn't make it right cause i trief to make her happy by just being myself. O well I've been with more women now that iam single. But no ammount of wemon i get with help the pain i felt from her cheating. It's ****** up my relationships with future women. Witch sucks cause its been 6 months. Everytime i see him and her i beat his *** just out of principal.

Answer 8

Depends on whether or not you'll think she'll do it again. Forgive but don't forget. Why did she do it? Is she not getting something from you? Or is she just a slut? Dump her if it's the later. If it's the former, talk with her and improve yourself for her so that you can fulfill her needs and she can reciprocate.

Answer 9

You have a long road ahead of you. She needs to come clean and tell you why she did it for one. She also needs to be willing to stop what she's doing (just because you caught her does not mean she's stopped). You both need to talk to a professional (a real Dr. not just a counselor) and figure out where both your heads are at.

Like I said, it's going to be a hard one get past.

Answer 10

Sorry man, you can't teach an old dog new tricks, 6 months is not a casual flare, its cold, premeditated, corrupt and it probably wasn't the first time, nor will it be the last, move on, you'll never be happy with that knowledge.