im 15 and pregnant what would you do?

Question

well here's the story things wearnt going good at home there was abuse going on i just couldnt take it cps was involved several times but they didn't do anything to help me becuase my parents would deny so i took it upon myself to find away out . so a cupple weeks went by and i ranaway with my boyfriend this time my mom never filied a runaway report and barley answers my call's its been almost 5 months since i have been home. my mom wont let me see or talk to my brother and sister my mom is not trying to help me out at all im 3 months pregnant and shes is denying me prenatal care she wont giv me my birth certificate or my soical so im basicly stuck! my mom wants me to giv my baby up but no way that is going to happen im going to kepp my baby, when i talked to my mom she said the only way i could come home was no more of my bf & its just messed up its his baby me and him are living toghter right now & we have been togther over a year i just want everything to be worked out i need my mom

Answer 1

go to a social service office and ask for help. explain your situation. as for things with your mother maybe counseling is an answer

Answer 2

So you're going to blame the entire situation on your Mom because you're a victim. OK, so you were a victim. That should have NEVER happened, however, you have now MADE yourself a victim again. You are pregnant. At 15 you do NOT know how to properly take care of a child. You, in fact, cannot take care of a child without outside help. I know this sounds cruel but it is REAL. You do not state your b/f's age but if he is 18 or over he is financially responsible for the child.

Now YOU have to make choices. Here they are:
1- stay where you are and leave things as they are (not a good choice)
2- go home to Mom and follow her rules (adoption is not a bad option. . . you can even arrange an open adoption where you have some limited involvement with the child in some cases). Your Mom should NOT have to raise another child and she would have to and probably would if you kept the baby.
3- get cps involved, get your birth certificate, etc. and try to make a go of it yourself without Mom's support (LOUSY idea).

Everything is NOT going to work out the way it is. Things have to change. You have to decide what changes you want (and how bad you want them) and then take action.

There is no reason to continue to live as a victim. You need counseling and parental help and you can get it. You just have to choose that.

Answer 3

My God. You are a child yourself and you need guidance. If there was abuse at home and your mom is kind of done with you, please don't go back. Be strong and try to find another loving family member.

You are pregnant and your mother cannot deny you prenatal care.

Just go to local hospital and ask if they have counselors you can talk to. Or go to your school counselor. Or a church. Or call Social Services.

Keep asking questions and keep good notes until someone tells you they can help you.

Needless to say, you should not be smoking or drinking or doing drugs especially now.

You are certainly not stuck just because your mother won't cooperate with you but you are in a hard spot nonetheless.

Have you considered all of your options? Speaking with a trained professional like at Planned parenthood or a woman's center would be helpful.

Good luck to you. Raising a baby is hard hard work. The rest of your life is not yours if you keep this baby. Frankly, and no offense, but if you are so inexperienced that you can't even figure out how to get prenatal care without your mom, how in the world are you going to take care of a newborn in 6 months?

Answer 4

www.girl-mom.com

Go there. Trust me. You will be amazed at the stories and resources this site can offer you.

Go to your local DHR and get an official copy of your birth certificate. Go to the Social Security office for a copy of your Social Security card. If they can't help you, go to the local courthouse and apply for status as an "emancipated minor" this should help you get around that nasty "have to be 18" mess.

Keep in mind that whether or not your mother chooses to be a part of your life you still have to handle the basics like medical attention. My response to you is to continue trying with your mother. If she spurns you for your entire pregnancy and then suddenly does a 180 when the baby is born and tries to welcome you back into her life so that she can get to know her grandchild, tell her no. If she didn't want you then, she doesn't want you now.

Mothers are just people too. Some people are more selfish than others. Best of luck.

Answer 5

I would go to planned parenthood. I understand you want your mother, I would too ... but if you have an abusive home life as it is, would you really want to bring a baby into this world where it would have to be in the same situation? I'm not judging you, just wondering what your reasoning is for having a child at 15. What about the actual child and the situations that it will have to deal with growing up? I don't know. Go to planned parenthood though, they will help you out. good luck.

Answer 6

ok, I was a mom at fifteen and I wish someone would have told me about some of the options that are out there.If I was you, I would give the baby up for adoption. And I am telling you this because I never new that was even an option.If I had known,then maybe things for me would have turned out differently.
Your life isn't yours anymore when you have a baby.You don't get to go on dates,you lose all your friends,and maybe even have to quit school. And thats not what you need.Atleast if you give your baby up for adoption,then not only are you providing that baby with a better life,but you too will have a better life.
BEST WISHES....

Answer 7

The fact that you are only 15 and pregnant AND don't want to follow rules at home so you "run away" to get what you want, just proves you are too immature to be a proper mother for a baby. At 15 you are still a child yourself. If you can't provide properly (100%) for this baby, you need to give it to someone who can. You probably think you can use this baby to blackmail your mom into letting you back into her home so she will then have one more CHILD to tend to, because at 15 you are completely unable to properly care for a baby. I think your mom is using the "Tough Love" approach and I support her 100%. Grow Up! It's not all about you.

Answer 8

heya honey, i know your scared and you need your mum i got pregnant when i was 14 and had a little girl when i was 15 i was also living with my boyfriend who i had been with for 2 years.im still with him and my baby is 2 months old.My parents dont even talk to me and havent done since i left home.They dont even know they have a grandchild as they never answer my calls my emails and they dont answer the door when i go round.i didnt have my social or my birth certificate and i went to the police tho only problem was that they made a big do out of the fact that i lived woth ym boyfriand and nearly put me in a foster home but in the end we had to lie and say i lived with his parents too so make sure you fit that in.they will help you and will get your birth certificate and social.Dont give up your baby i had that choice too and i said no.my auntie gave her baby up for abortion and said it was the biggest mistake of her life. she passes everyday whinig for the baby dont have anymore and its horrible to see i love my baby to pieces but your relationship has to be extremely strong to handle a baby too.You need you mum though darlin.Maybe wait until the baby is born and then try and sort things out.if not try everything you can go to her work call round the house ring her loads of time and make it clear that your having your baby and your staying with your boyfriend.mothers are sopposed to accept you no matter what you do with your life.baby or no baby she should love you no matter what and make that clear to her too.good luck sweetie. xxxxxxx

Answer 9

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry about this.
It does sound that you are better off out of that scenario, but I understand that you need your mom. You need to visit her face to face and apologise for running away, because she is probably scared of losing you and she needs reassurance that you aren't going to disappear into the night again.
You have to have some face to face conversations with her, and it's time that she started treating you like an adult even though she still sees you as her baby.
And you need that prenatal care. Make sure you get the things you need to get it.

I hope that things work out for you soon:)

Answer 10

Wow - sry about all that - when I first told my mum I was pregnant she told me to give it up - but then - as I got further into the pregnancy she softened and totally changed - she loves my twins now - I was 16 when I got pregnant. I totally understand you. But really... it does look like you are stuck - you need someones help! is there any1 else in your family who you are close with (an adult?) if yes - ask them for help - if no try finding SOME kind of adult that u know to help u... one that perfectly approves of u and your boyfriend (and child)

Answer 11

I understand how u feel maby when the baby comes she come back around to her sence i know its hard im 18 and pregnant with my foster moms nephew baby and just found out he lied about his age that he's 14 years old this pregnnacy is so hard on me i have gone threw alot of stages like sucidal i was not trying to kill my self but when i get very very very upset i cut my self to let the pain out but dont ever do that and dont be upset to much or u will have a nervous baby i know its hard but u will get threw this just pray to god he will be with you BEST OF LUCK