Ladies help a sister out?

Question

Here's watz up. Scooping thru the cell phone bill, don't even ask where's the trust. It's there ,but sometime one get the need to confirm that the other is still playing fair. No one wants to be played the fool. Anyway I notice a call made at 1:04am 3:00mins duration. So I called, and a woman answer she claim to not know who he was. So when he got home I ask him who number that on the bill at 1:04am he had no idea. O:k long short his version I girl at a party he went to gave him her number. And he only called her to let her know he was married. and the call was made at the party.Would u believe?

Answer 1

Everyone seeks affirmation.
Think about your total relationship with this man?
Is he trustworthy?
Is he loyal?
Does he have integrity?
If he does maybe he was just at a party and having a good time and a chick did give him her number. And it is purely innocent.
He was flattered by the attention. But never would have acted on it and you can take him at his word that he just called to tell him he was married.
Be flattered someone else found your man hot!!!!

If you two are having problems this may be wake up cal to fix the issues or the relationship will end. You know if there are problems or not. Don't be afraid to ask him how he feels. I put "ask not confront" because confront is the start of a confrontation, it doesn't sound like you are looking for a fight.
It never hurts to be aware of what's going on. If he starts acting differently, then you may need to take a more aggressive approach.
If he is trustworthy then trust him and his word, if he is not then start setting yourself up for a smooth exit...........
Mountains out of mole hills are not fights worth fighting!!!!!!

Answer 2

First of all, if you have the need to confirm, there is not enough trust. That's the first problem. But I feel women want to trust and be secure in a relationship, so if they are feeling distrust, there is a reason. My gut (and my experience) tells me that was a lie he told you about "only calling her to tell her he is married." I mean, really, really, he took the time at a party to call this girl and tell her that? Does not sound logical, girl. Also, first he said he had no idea whose number that was -- so he calls someone he has no idea who they are to tell him he's married? Sounds like he is lying or needs a shrink!

Answer 3

Was he at the party at 1:04pm? Ask him that the next time this happens; cut her off before even getting that far. Why did he call someone just to tell them he was married, he should have handed the number back to her immediately. Let this matter rest for a couple of days, then invite him out to drink coffee and discuss this matter in calm open environment, lol
good luck

Answer 4

Why didn't he just tell her at the party? Thats the question I would ask. You have every reason to be suspicious. Has he ever given you a reason to wonder? Why did he even care whether she knew he was married anyway? Seems like he would have just ignored it. But, it may be very innocent also. Did the girl seem convincing when she told you she didn't know him? I would keep a close eye out for a while. Good Luck

Answer 5

Okay, what I would be asking is: Why you stick your hand out to accept the number? Why couldn't you have told her that you was married in person when she was handing the number to him? Was curiousity there for him to accept it? If can truthfully tell you those answers and you can confirm that there has been no more interaction between the two, then yeah I'll let it pass. But if your wifey instinct are telling you something more is up, then you know most times our womanly instincts are right.

Answer 6

I wouldn't if there was more than one call. 3 miutes isn't long and how long ago was it? Wait until next months bill, see if it on there again and then question it. Don't open up a can of worms that doesn't need to be opened up. Trust him in the mean time

Answer 7

I would give him the benefit of the doubt until you see other suspicious activity. I would check to see if he makes anymore interesting calls to this same number or any other numbers you don't recognize, especially at unusual times in the late night or early morning. I would also keep myself alert to him staying out late. If he is out late see if you can confirm his whereabouts if you really believe he could be cheating. Maybe check for any unusual credit or ATM card purchases....I would also keep an eye out if he sneaks out of bed and you catch him making any phone calls in the middle of the night from your home phone.

Good luck!

Answer 8

If he is so concerned about convincing you that he did not cheat and he is married, then why did he take the number from her in the first place, and please, he would not have to call her to tell her he is married! I agree with most of the people who answered, he should have told her on the spot and left it at that, walking away and not taking her number!

Answer 9

I'm married girl but what was he doing at a party with out you in the first place. I trust my husband and its okay for him to hang out wit his boys but not at 1:00 am. And if you trusted him why were you checking the phone? You guys I think need to set boundries. It kinda sounds like high school dating to me. Try going out to parties together.

Answer 10

Unfortunately NO, he didn't have to call her to tell her that he was married. A married man that has no intentions of anything would not have even bothered keeping the number. He would have told her on the spot he was married. Sorry girl....