His wife thinks he is an angel and he and i have had sex more than once and even our 20 year old daughter knows . Should i tell her ? She was responsible for our marriage breaking up. I hate her guts and but i don't want him back .
2006-11-29 12:02:16 · 43 answers · asked by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did it for revenge and it felt great!
2006-11-29 12:06:18 · update #1
WOW....this is crazy. I was in the same situation. I caught my ex cheating on me with his current wife and left him. A year after our divorce was final they got married, but he continued to try to come back to me. One night after my son's college football game we decided to stay at the same hotel and you know what they say about drinkin with your ex (DONT DO IT) We had sex and haven't stopped seeing each other every chance we get. The current wife has been trying to be friendly to me for years, but I cant see myself being cool with her. If it wasn't for her, we would have never broke up. I have thought about telling her many times over the years, so has he. But here is the question that you have to ask yourself, if you believe in Karma.....what purpose will it serve for you to tell her that information? Just because we were married to them at one time doesn't give us permission to lay up with them when we feel like it. I say take it to your grave.
2006-11-29 12:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"She" was responsible for the marriage breaking up? Yeah he's such an angel, he was forced into it? Re think that statement, okay?
Allow your children to live there own lives and don't involve them, it's not right. Why is it that the women or mistresses are always the hated parties in these situations. Never the spouse. We all have choices, as did he. Hate is such a waste of time. Why would you give that woman such power over you. Hold your head up and move on! That's the best revenge speaking from experience. Good luck and take good care.
2006-11-29 12:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to want permission to do something you plan to do anyway. You had "revenge sex" with someone you don't love in order to ... what? Make yourself happy? Or to ruin the new marriage? Once you've become proactive (ie., causing the cheating to occur), you're a player. You want the new marriage to fail and now it's as much your fault as his. You've now sunk to the level of the one you hate. When the new wife discovers the cheating, many others are now going to hate you and you will still be bitterly divorced. There are ways to get past all this--but accumulating ill will through dishonest actions is hardly the way to go.
2006-11-29 12:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by TheGoodFather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she was responsible for breaking up your marriage?
That implies that they were cheating on you?
If that's the case, what's to tell?
He cheated, she cheated and you played a part in him cheating.
She already knows what kind of guy he is and still wants to be with him. Let her have him, they deserve each other.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Forget about revenge, it's shallow and implies your jealous of his new relationship.
you said you don't want him back so move on and enjoy life without him.
But wait, you say you don't want him back so why did you sleep with him and help him cheat on his current wife?
You're ALL guilty in this game and need to quit.
2006-11-29 12:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does your daughter have to know who and how many times you've had sex with someone. What you did was sleazy, you lowered yourself to your husband's new wife's level. You hate her and now you're just like her, you shouldn't feel great. Everybody gets what they put out in life eventually, you have to believe this is true. Please also believe me when I tell you that the very best revenge is happiness. Move on in your life, with dignity and with your head held high. You'll find that your HAPPINESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!
2006-11-29 12:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reasons to tell sombody something like that is,
1. You care about the woman getting hurt.
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2.You hate her guts & want her to hurt as much as you did.
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My X dumped me for a girl 10 years younger than he is. He still has a key to the house, He pays all the bills so I can't change the locks. nyway her cheates on her already & is into drugs. A friend told me I should tell her my X is doing meth & cheating on her. I said why I don't care for the girl so let her learn the same way I did how my X really is. If she dumps him because of this then he might want to come back to my home. I really don't want to put up with that so I keep quiet about it.
2006-11-29 12:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! First of all if he cheated on you with her thus causing your marriage to end, then how the hell can she think of him as an angel. Second, why have you had sex with your ex knowing that he was going to marry this woman. I say shame on all THREE of you. This is not your battle to fight. Be gone with him and find yourself someone else to please you!
P.S. Ok so you did it purely for revenge, to satisfy your own hate for BOTH of them. What a lesson you are teaching your daughter.
2006-11-29 12:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by It's been a while........... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him back why do you keep having sex with him you are leading him on, and breaking up another family. Become the mature one, and quit getting revenge on her for what happened. and close the door on him. You are setting a bad example for your daughter.
2006-11-29 12:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by faith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW talk about having your revenge sex I could understand you wanting to back stab her the way she started with you but since you don't' want him back what would it accomplish sure hearing how he is an angel and telling her he slept with you then she would dump him and then he would be back at your door wanting more so no don't tell her but don't sleep with him anymore either go get a new man and let him know that you moved on
2006-11-29 12:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She won't believe you even if you tell her because you're the ex-wife after all. If you really want her to know, make her find out by herself or get your daughter to drop hints.
But it's just petty revenge, anyway, especially if you don't want him back. If you're really that bitter, I suppose it's ok, but... I'm not sure it'll make you feel that good
2006-11-29 12:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋