my bf & i r really in love and i dont knw how 2 show it more. i tell him this and he says "then lets have a baby!" i cant tell him i dont want his baby, bcauze i do. but i think im too young and if my parents find out they will kill him and i love him 2 death. what should i do??
2006-11-29 12:01:12 · 25 answers · asked by Bleed!ng Star 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My 9 year old daughter is smart enough to know what you need to learn. When she saw our chickens she said "See that rooster over there mating with that hen - well, just because he wants to mate, doesn't mean that he loves her, he just wants sex!"
If you are both over 25, have jobs and a stable home to offer a baby, then go ahead and have one, but until then, please don't!
2006-11-30 01:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young - Age??
It's good that you realised that you are too young and, being scared of your parents means that you are really too young.
Why does your bf doesn't reason like you? Seems he has not matured yet. When you are in love, especially at this young age, you will always think that everything is going to run perfectly in your love life. But i'm sorry to tell you that this is not always the case. How many babies have been conceived during love relationship and how many of these parents have really made it?
You have grown up, may be physically, but are you mature enough to assume responsibilty? I mean responsibility in all conditions of life. Speak to your parents, they will help you take a decision and do not let your love life cloud your judgement. Also, talk to your bf as well. Try to make him understand. When you are ready for a baby, you will know it.
I would recommend a baby after marriage and not before.
2006-11-29 12:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by the.buster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should wait. If you don't feel like you are ready, then you shouldn't give in. There are plenty of other ways to show each other that you are in love. Having a baby is a really big responsibility and I imagine you could handle it just fine but are you ready? that is a decision you will have to live with for the rest of your life and be ready to get stuck at home when you might want to be out having fun. I'm not saying that babies aren't any fun just that there is more than one side to such a big decision. thankfully, you sound very mature for even considering that you are too young and for thinking of future consequences. That is very responsible of you. I think you will know when the time is right and remember, it is something you want to be able to look forward to not dread.
2006-11-29 12:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by ricks.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you're too young, you ARE too young. I imagine you are at least still in high school. You show your love to your boyfriend in the way you treat him, not in allowing him to impregnate you. If he loves you, he will understand this. If he is too immature to accept that then he is too immature to bring up a baby! Remember how many years you have ahead of you when you no longer live with your parents and the numerous ways having a baby would impact that time. It sounds like you have all the time in the world. If he is "really in love" he should be thrilled to have you and recognize you have all the time in the world when you are older to decide to have children. It is the hugest responsibility in the world at a time when your greatest responsibility should be yourself. All the best!
2006-11-29 12:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's afraid of losing you and wants to trap you. What's the rush. There's plenty of time to have a baby. if he loves you then he would wait and not even bring it up. Did he propose and ask you to marry him. tell him you want a LONG engagement and want to be married SEVERAL years before having a baby and in your own home. Offer to baby sit for a friend or relative who has a newborn and make your BF do the work. That might change his mind real fast.
But If you choose to remain his GF and engage in an intimate relationship with this boy, I hardly trust him with the contraceptives. My advice, go on the birth control pill immediately and don't tell him.
2006-11-29 12:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by hopeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're not ready to be a mother. He shouldn't pressure you to have a baby. Its a huge life step and if you're not ready, then you really shouldn't bring a baby into the world. If you two love each other that much, then it shouldn thave to be shown 'more'. love is mostly like an understanding, not so much a competition on how to top the previous thing. Besides, if you ever did hav ea baby what would be next? you can't top everything. And if you dont want a baby i highly suggest you don't have one. Good luck
2006-11-29 12:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had the same exact problem with my bf!! I talked to him about it and explained all the problems that would occur, like not enough money to raise a baby, obviously parents would kick you out so you gotta have a place to live and stuff. Tell him that you want your baby to have the best life you could provide for it, but at a young age you know that's not possible. Just talk to him, I'm sure he'll understand. it worked with my bf! =] good luck!
2006-11-29 12:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Polina 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him that you are to young and you still have your whole life ahead of you two to have a baby. If he doesn't understand then he has the problem not you. I'm 19 and so is my husband. No kids yet but we are working on it. But just like everyone else tells me i still have 10 years ahead of me to have kids. which is true so that is why we aren't rushing it we are taking out time and when it happens it happens. If he really loves you, the he will respect your decision that you are two young and you want to wait. I hope i helped a little.
2006-11-29 12:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin your life! This guy sounds like he has serious insecurity and/or priority issues. If he loved you, then he wouldn't be pressuring you into starting a family at such a young age, especially when you're young! Stay in school, find a new guy, and focus on YOURSELF. Make smart decisions, sweetie. You don't need to have a baby yet, no matter how deeply in love you think you are. =)
2006-11-29 12:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 13:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you that he wants a baby because you told him you don't know how to show that you love him. But if he really loved you and wanted to be with you then he would wait for you to be ready to have kids. Believe me I got pregnant at 17 I was with my fiancee for 2 years before we had her and it is hard. I'm thankful that I have a good paying job and my fiancee isn't lazy and we can actually support our daughter. If you have kids it makes things between the two of you more complicated. Explain to him that when the both of you are older and ready you will have kids. Only tell him this if you want to be with him for a long time and want to have kids with him. How old are you? To me it sounds like your boyfriend is older. Just tell him when you're meant to have kids it will happen, but not until then. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-29 12:08:23 · answer #11 · answered by ♥i LuV mY nEw HuBbY LEO♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋