Do you think this a harsh letter to send?

Question

"I don’t like you or Alex becuz sometimes you both annoy me. You don’t need to make stupid *** comments. And Alex creeps me out sometimes. No offense...I guess. Anyways I don’t want you or Alex to talk to me nor do I wanna hear you say my name or talk about me. OK??? And please try not to look at me. Make it work, please even though you are in my class, but you know its only one class."
This guy in my Biology class is obese, smelly because he wears the same thing everyday and never changes for PE he's not poor, and is mean. At first he was my friend cuz I sat by him. And then He is being a dumbass by thinking he's right and he interupts the teacher very rudely. He says shutup alot to my friend Nate and told the teaher that he had tobacco. The dude looks at me and I hear him talking about me either in a mean or eerie way. He's a real troublemaker. My friend got asked out by him last year and was absent for a day. What do ya think?

He is in the weight room while me and his creepy friend alex is in PE, and the weight room overlooks the gymnasium. sometimes he comes down to play PE games if it will help you with a decision

I am scared that his friend likes me becuz he sounds weird and talks about vodka. Plus he went out with my friends friend and it was weird

Answer 1

I think this letter is a little harsh, and there will definitely be problems if you send it. But I can't tell you whether you should give it to them or not...that's up to you.

Answer 2

There is a 24 hour rule we use in industry. When we are p*ssed off over something, wait 24 hours before answering. It does save much aggravation as well as preventing a backfire on you. From your letter two things -maybe three: One , you are frustrated. two, this person begs for attention-do your best to ignore him. three-What is the teachers problem? Why doesn't he tell the person to get out? What is he-a wimp? I think you get a few people together and approach the principal TOGETHER with a list of the problems this guy creates.

Answer 3

Yes, it is very harsh. More importantly, it lacks substance. (ie. it really does not say much of anything meaningful)

If you want to send such a critical and sharp letter, at least, write it so that it will convey your objections accurately.

For example, "stupid *** comments" mean nothing. Replace it with, "I do not appreciate your comment about me such as **********"

Secondly, you cannot dictate what others do. "Don't look at me" is impossible to enforce. He can do whatever he wants. Don't put in anything you cannot control.

To send this letter or not, is up to you. My only suggestion is, rewrite it so that your feeling is accurately conveyed.

By the way, did you stop to consider, this person may have some issues you are not aware of? (and is none of anyone's business?)

Answer 4

Letters like that will be nothing to him.
But you need to take the letter and let a teacher or counselor read it. Sometimes when you put your feelings down on paper its easier to explain yourself and what is happening to you especially if this is a bully situation which sounds like it is..
You can't ask people to not look at you that's near impossible you ever try not looking at someone in your class? Talk to your your teacher or your counselor and hopefully your parents might be able to help you too.

Answer 5

Of course this is a harsh letter, but only because you want it to be. If you wanted to be civil you'd say "look I don't want to have anything to do with the two of you anymore. I'm asking you politely, to leave me alone. If you don't respect my wishes, there will be problems." and leave it at that. Make a copy of the letter before you give it to them so you have proof that you tried nicely. If they continue to bother you, take it to the next level.
As for the boy in gym, stay away from smelly, rude people.

Answer 6

I would be less immature about writing the note. Writing a note is fine, but express your feelings and thoughts in a way he will understand and not just get offended. I would definately mention it to a counselor at your school that you have concerns about the way he acts (describe it maturely w/o cussing and too many of your personal opinions- describe all of his actions that make you uneasy and tell him that it affects you). Ask that the two get together. Ask that you not be involved w/ the discussions (that will make things worse).

Answer 7

i am still kinda confused as to what creeps you out really...something about vodka and stuff but anyway. if he makes you uncomfortable or is rude to you or a teacher..that is a situation that an adult needs to mediate. ignoring him would be the best solution. if he is as rude as you say and as mean as you think, you may not want to egg him on anymore. you don't know what he is capable of. he might snap. and that wouldn't be good. no one likes a bully and i am sure his friends are few and far between. you just sleep well knowing that you are not adding to an already poopy situation.

Answer 8

Some times honesty is the best policy, I do think It's a little harsh you should start off not so aggressive, this way they will be more inclined to read the whole letter, before they get all pissed off. But ya it works, good Luck, your going to need it.

Answer 9

its harsh, but it sounds true...i am in high school so from a student's point of view, it seems reasonable. i would give it to him anyway. that may seem mean but if you really want this jerk to leave you alone, give it to him and maybe tell him what you mean. and if that doesnt work, you could try to be mean and obnoxious back to him. it may seem like the wrong thing to do, but if you are desperate, try it. or, if all else fails, tell a teacher or someone of disciplinary authority.

good luck!

Answer 10

Harsh? No.

Intelligible? Yes.