Hi all I have a question becuz I am confused?
I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years & yes we have had our ups & downs. My first problem is her friends, they have been a bad influence on her & she has admitted that that they have in some way. Also durin a stint of us bein mad @ each other she went out w/ nother man which mad me furious, now my trust has fallin with her & i found out some things with her and this guy that i didnt like...ie she send him a sexy e-card. With this bein upset i went off on her and us cryin ensued but I then jus stop speaking 2her altogether(this all happened w/in 3 weeks) she later shows up 2my house 2talk because i was ignoring her....i told her i didnt want 2 be back in this relationship becuzt has 2 hange &i dont think shes ready 2 change fully...i know she cares about me but i dont kno if shes ready.... in order 4 it 2 work she has 2 get rid of her bad influential friends and cut communication w/ his guy who she works with
2006-11-29 11:46:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so the things is her job on occasions goes out after work and has fun, now she wants to get back with me but i dont want her goin out and even bein around this guy due to them havin a little thing for each other and in order for us to move to the next level(marriage) this sneakin around isnt acceptable and i also want her to ditch her friends, not that i dont want her 2 have friends i think that they arent good friends for her....she has goals and her friends dont and on top of that her friends have been a pain in regards to our relationship....me not wantin her 2 be out with her work friends because of this guy and her dicthin her friends because they are no good does that seems controllin....i just eventually want the best thing for us and her friends arent helping in any way!!!!
2006-11-29 11:46:28 · update #1
dude, if you think this type of behaviour is going to stop once your married, you need your head examined. If she cared for you, she would do all she could to make sure you felt like you were the most important person in the world, as you would do with her. People should learn to be NICE to each other! Especially if they are in a LTR! Ask yourself if you want to feel this way for the rest of your life...if not, then move on, make sure she knows she is free to do what she wants to and so are you. Get over her and get on with your life, find someone who thinks your worthy of them and that you feel is worthy of you!
2006-11-29 11:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are being very controlling. Why do you think that you get to choose what is best. This seems like a very one sided relationship.
2006-11-29 19:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and get away from her. If she can't put you before her friends then she's not worth your time. Just be glad you're not married to her.
2006-11-29 19:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by ezlayedback 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen dipwad.
Learn how to spell and form complete sentences, and you'll attract a real woman.
2006-11-29 20:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't about changing someone. If you can't accept her the way she is, find someone else.
2006-11-29 19:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to school and work on your education.
2006-11-29 20:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. You cannot control anyone but yourself.
2006-11-29 20:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by denonvillier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-29 21:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel!! if your not comfortable with her divorce her. i mean she doesn't have good friends and she really must not care for you!!
GOOD LUCK, THOUGH!!!
2006-11-29 19:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
& you call yourself smooth operator ?
2006-11-29 20:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋