Ok well this is how it is , My mom and me had a little problem when i was a freshman now im a junior but when i was a fish i came out to her that im bi ,and we had some problems but my MOM and DAD act like i never said anything like its not true and it sucked i hate it so NOW they act like im straight but they NO IM NOT.................. so here i am my junior year and its so HARD like i cant keep this a secret I KNOW WHAT I AM ...............but i dont want to ruin the relationship i have with my mom "right now its good" but i also dont want to repeat everything that happen when i was a freshman and school is SO HARD now i cant take it ,its so much to handle soooooooo
Can anyone give me some helpful advice????? i need guidence
2006-11-29 11:44:29 · 9 answers · asked by Jason :) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have gotten some BAD answers to this serious question.
Just remember, you only have two years to go in hell (sometimes called high school!) Then only a few more years until you are over 21. Everyone; straight, bi, homo, has stress. Especially at this time in your life. Just remember that EVERYONE has a lot of stress in their junior year. And MOST people make it through, for better or for worse. But it is do-able. It will pass. Silly to say, but it does build character.
It shows wisdom that you are asking for help here. Now you need to ask for help from someone who is there for you. An uncle or an aunt might be more approachable than your parents. A favorite teacher is another possibility. Most adults will keep things in their confidence if you ask them to. Since it would not help you for them to tell your secret, they will probably keep it.
If your family is churched, talk with your pastor. If your school has a personal counselor, talk to him. You need to be able to talk to someone about this and ultimately you need to talk to your mom! But it will help if you can talk things out with another adult first and get things straight in your mind before you talk to your parents again.
2006-11-29 12:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by David A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense meant, just be normal. It seems to me that all this girl on girl, guy on guy dating is a fad or something. One person comes out then before you know it, the whole world it trying it out but; hey, that's just what I think. If you don't want to rock the boat with the parents and you want to be bi then, you have no choice but to rock the boat right? So, straight, parents happy but; you deny your true self; bi, parents unhappy but; you be who you are. None of us can make the choice for you.
2006-11-29 20:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you do is start being a man.
a person's sexuality has no bearing on who you are in life unless you make those type of judgements. Your mom raised you to be somebody......do that.
It seems you are stressed to the limit. That is when you learn what you are made of. Lots of people have done it before you attempted it - straight or not.
2006-11-29 19:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pat B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mainly concentrate on school and if you excel, your mom will still have a good relationship with you. Your social life probably doesn't want to conflict with your mom and dad and they're probably trying to hide that, so maybe pray on it.
2006-11-29 19:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes through hard times in life they will get there and they will understand one day its just that you have to keep on telling them and give them time they will come through some how so my best advice is to hold on the light will come some how/
2006-11-29 19:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by lena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring over your special friend to meet the family.
2006-11-29 19:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw MOM AND DAD. What are you going to do with your life? Get what you want, that's what you're going to do. It's everything you make it and nothing more.
2006-11-29 19:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by I Feel Like Lickin Your Chicken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on your education now then when you graduate you can go down the Hersey highway all you want.
2006-11-29 19:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by goingfasterbmw 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU JUST HAVE THE FUNNIES TIME YOU CAN HAVE
2006-11-29 19:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by MISS.CHRISBROWN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋