So, I have a child with the woman...aka satan. we own a home together. we get engaged. all within less than 2 yrs. First mistake. I fight for custody, she refuses and gets sole. I have an order of protection on her. She takes our child and moves t oa different city. When I see her she either says she will call the cops on me for trespassing when I try to see my daughter, she isnt home at all, or she is all nice and says she still loves me. Meanwhile, she still drives by everyday, is on her 3rd man in 6 months, has him call me from her phone in the middle of the night to talk trash when he is 10 years older than I am mind you. She send s me emails from accounts she makes up under my name and writes them in my perspective. How and when do women get over things? I never cheated, was completely faithful and loyal. Helped get her off drugs and out of debt, and now she is suing me for the house too. Always jealous and untrusting. I couldnt even hug a female cousin.
2006-11-29 11:42:13 · 19 answers · asked by James C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, you picked her, and now you're stuck with her forever, because you made a baby with her. You should have fought the move - it may be too late for that now. If she's living in another city, why is she trying to get the house? And why didn't you get an order for "no overnight guests of the opposite gender when the child is home" in your divorce/custody papers? I know a guy who did that, hired a PI and won custody of his 2 girls because the mom couldn't keep her legs crossed when her daughters were home.
Have your visitation order with you and bring the police with you to pick up your kid for visitation. She can't keep the kid from you, and if the cops are already there, the whole tresspassing thing will vanish. Learn what your rights are and fight for them. There are a lot of father's support groups out there with a lot of legal information.
She is not going to get better. Maybe she will be distracted if she has a few more kids, and maybe you'll get lucky and she'll find another man to torture instead of you.
Document everything and bring it to court when you have to go. Don't be late with the child support, either, because judges don't look kindly on deadbeats -- and they also don't look kindly on women who won't let the fathers have relationships with the children. Record the phone calls. Get them for harrassment.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-29 11:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's her problem, not yours. Be thankful you are not together anymore. Go to family court and file for visitation so you can see your child. Do it tomorrow. If she lives in a different county, you will probably have to file in her county because that is where the child resides. Make sure you specify, I want to see the child on Wed. and every other weekend, I will pick the child up at blank time and return her to home at blank time. You may not get all you ask but; do it anyways. Let her go ahead and date all these guys and ruin her life again, then you can go for joint custody, maybe eventually sole custody. I don't reccommend sole unless she is really, really, really, bad. Children need both their parents and it sounds to me that she isn't over you yet using the child as a pawn. Why else would she have her boyfriends call you. I wonder what happend with the split though? What a fuc*ing bi*ch. I hate women like her.
2006-11-29 11:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This broad is a psycho and she can sue you for whatever she wants it doesnt mean that a judge will agree with her I think you should try for custody of your child again as this woman is clearly unstable and you have the proof the word is document,I mean you must document everything no matter how big or small because if and when the right judge gets a hold of her and it will happen eventually and her mental state comes into question the along with her very odd behavior due to the fact that you moved on the odds will be in your favor your child will be better off without her until she gets control of herself mentally because she evidentally has issues.
2006-11-29 11:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is happening. Although I only know your side of the story, she sounds totally unreasonable. Her seemingly erratic behavior sounds...suspicious. I also don't know how old your ex is, but she sounds like she doesn't have her priorities straight. If she did, she wouldn't uproot this child moving to different cities, bring various strangers in the child's life, constantly change her mind on how she feels about you and try to sue you for the house rather than try to be independant and self-sufficient. I know you only asked when women get over things, but sometimes when they're psycho, they rarely ever do! My (unsolicited) advice to you is to study up on your rights as a father, document EVERY SINGLE THING she does that's crazy/irrational/harrassing, save all those emails along with the IP adresses they've been sent from and use that to your advantage. Doesn't sound like this child should be with her.
2006-11-29 11:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds crazy. If you are paying child support than you have full legal right to see your daughter. If you think it's bad right now wait till you get a new girlfriend. I would file a right to see your child complaint with the court. This will not go away for 18 yrs. SORRY!! And then when your daughter graduates and has kids and so on and so forth you will have to put up with her. Sorry again. Forget her make sure you see your kid and make sure that when you get your visitations you change hands in a public place and don't talk to her other than what is nessesary. I wouldn't get back with her if I was you but make sure you document everything she has been doing it will help you in court. dates times actions and record conversations if you can. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-29 11:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by ohio to newyork 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Has she ever been diagnosed with a mental illness, such as Bipolar disorder?? She needs some serious help. I would certainly keep fighting to see your child. She is definetely not right, something is wrong. You sound like a nice guy and its a shame this has happened. Sorry, hang in there. Keep strong for your daughter. Good Luck
2006-11-29 12:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, I would try again for custody. you don't want you daughter to become like her. Record the phone calls for future proof. also keep the emails they can be traced and if you can video her driving by. Collect all the proof you can get and fight her. Don't give up your child needs you. real woman do not act like this, she needs a psychologist
Good Luck
2006-11-29 11:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your cousin is also crazy satan!! women are just like any other human beeing. They get over it just like men do...I believe. Just ignore her...she'll be the only crazy acting like a fool...but i pity your child under her care. Try to do something ro your child won't have a futur...
2006-11-29 11:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you picked her to be the mother of your child and now you have to deal with this psycho***** for the rest of your life. As far as visitation, if you have visitation rights, she cannot keep you from seeing your child. If you don't have any written agreement as to visitation by the courts, go to family court and get it. If she is not cooperative with the agreement, she could be put in jail. And FYI...women love to hold grudges, especially women that are not mentally stable to begin with.
2006-11-29 11:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is NUTS. You are better off without her. However she is the mother of your child and therefore you had better figure out a way to get along with her... it is only hurting your daughter. Shame it came to this.. :(
2006-11-29 11:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia_Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋