Coming from someone who has mild/moderate depression and is currently in a situation that does nothing but worsen it, I hope you will believe that I am writing this because I truly want you to feel better (and because it helps me to think I may be helping someone else). First, I would advise you to make a list - mental or actually written out - of anything and everything you want to do. Sometimes planning out your future can seem both intimidating and restricting, so try not to worry (at least, not right now) about what you want to "do" with your life or where you want to be in 10 years; rather, think about things that will make lifelong memories. In my instance, I'd (unrealistically, but ideally) like to work lift lines and ski Snowmass mountain for a whole season, stand by myself and look out over the river Seine at midnight after seeing Les Miserables (if only I spoke French), drink the best microbrewery stouts Ireland has to offer, trace my family roots to know where I came from, spend a week on a lake in Canada, a beach in Hawaii, see the St. Louis Cardinals play in the World Series (this was my year, damn med school) or just go somewhere, anywhere, where nobody knows me or expects anything at all of me. Give yourself a break from all the stressors of everyday life. Now, living is definitely hard; don't let anyone tell you otherwise - money, work, relationships, even family can be extremely stressful and depressing (while each can also be fulfilling if you are content with yourself and have worked each out to fit in your life). On that note, life is manageable and can be very fulfilling. I'm sure you've been told, either directly or through societal/familial/peer pressure, that you can't do what you want when you want. You can! You need to find what makes you happy because everyone knows life is too short to live for everyone else (as packaged as that whole sentence is, it's true). Don't go bang out an 8 ball of coke or hide behind any other drugs, they'll just make it worse in the long run. And always realize that you are as good as any human being that walks this Earth and, no matter how anyone else views you, the only person you have to live with every single second of your life is yourself. So, treat yourself well and make time for you, even if it is just sitting in front of a tv or reading a magazine or a novel. Eat well (don't starve yourself and eat healthy foods), get active any way you can, get involved in something that you will enjoy each and every second (acting, music, painting, sculpting, movie reviewing, writing, volunteering, stargazing, hiking, biking, anything at all!) Know that you belong here, that your life DOES matter, that someone loves you (probably multiple "someones") and that you DESERVE to be happy. Finally, let yourself have those little things that you usually deny yourself. Buy some candles and a new soothing CD and take a long warm bath, go get an hour-long massage, spend an extra $20 on that next pair of $100 shoes to get the ones you REALLY want, but make sure you do it ALL for YOU, not anyone else. You can't truly love life until you truly love yourself. I hope this helps, and there is no magic fix-all for life; these are just some suggestions. Make your life your own; nobody knows you like you, so trust yourself and don't look back and beat yourself up for your "mistakes". Nobody (save Jesus, if you're a Christian) walked this Earth in perfection. Accept yourself for who you are and try to continuously better yourself, but be realistic in your expectations. Okay, I've ranted and raved enough about this but I really mean it when I say I hope you find what you're looking for and I'll be rooting for you :)
2006-11-29 12:43:30
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answered by Jim R 1
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Well I think you have reached the first step... talking about it...
I do think that you need to get out to the world take n a hobby, learn a new thing, get to meet some new friends, a support group for people that truly understand what you are going through. Also a doctor, psychologist is not a bad idea, at least is someone that you can talk to without having the fear that you are being judge because you are "crazy". You know what we, down here on this world don't know nothing at all, we live our hole life as a journey of self discovery, so take the time to explore life and the person you are, we are all special an deserve a chance to get to know as much as we can about our own self.
Good Luck !!!
2006-11-29 11:50:11
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answered by wanna_help_u 5
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It's ok! I've been there! Make sure that what you are feeling doesn't show to other people, I know that sounds stupid and wrong, but the more you seem unconcerned with having a girlfriend, the more they will flock to you. hang out with your guys and learn how to have a good time with friends. When girls see how you act normally without wallowing in your own sadness, they might see something in you that they like. Being a girl, I can tell you I look for the guy who can be comfortable no matter where is his, who he is with, and can have a good time just about anywhere/anytime! Girls want to be around that and not a guy who seems as though he's missing something. So pretend you are whole and then you will become whole :)
2016-05-23 03:26:26
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answered by Anonymous
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You should know it's okay to feel like this, it does not mean you are crazy. I think it's a good thing you're beating the cutting, it's a strong sign. I want you to go see a doctor but you don't have to, it's up to you. But you do need to get a tetanus shot booster. Getting cut with an out of date tetanus shot can make you feel very bad. And every time you get cut you can shorten the life of your last shot. So at least get one of those. A county health clinic will even do it for free. It can even be a county you don't actually live in so no one will know you. I was surprised to find that out but they really don't care at all, they'll still help you for free.
I'm a big fan of free.
Thinking about suicide is called "suicidal ideation." And it sucks. But there's another thing that can be important to know too. It's whether you have a plan or not. You know, have you figured out how you would kill yourself if you decided to do it? If the answer is "No, I just think about it all the time," then I'm not as worried about you as I could be. You still hurt of course, and I will still worry. :) If you have already developed a plan then I am much more concerned. You're not any more or less crazy either way, but with a plan you are more likely to go through with killing yourself. And I don't want you to do that at all.
If you do have a plan please do any of these things right away.
Go to a doctor and tell him or her to help you.
Go find some person in some church and tell them to help you.
Call the police and tell them you might hurt yourself.
Call a help line.
And you don't have to ask these people to help you, you can be in control and tell them to help you. They'll do it, they have to. You have the power to make them, all you have to do is tell them to fix you.
But it really is your decision. Don't let me badger you if you don't want me to. I don't want to sound mean.
But do get a tetanus booster shot, please.
Everything can be better. Let me know what you decide about the tetanus shot and everything else too.
See ya.
2006-11-29 13:40:11
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answered by Avalon 4
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There are low spirits out there who WANT you to be depressed. You have no obligation to please them. Do you think you and all your perfect bodily interrelating parts were an accident? If not start by telling the Creator aloud and alone that you thank Him. Do you have any talents?Thank Him for those. Is there anything attractive about you at all? Thank Him for that. Did He make you badly that you have to cry? Can you dance? Sing?I see you can spell and you express yourself well. Thank Him for that. Now think up 6 more things to thank Him for. Do you know anyone less lucky than you? Do something nice for them. Buy yourself some forms of Vitamin B in the supermarket so you don't get more depressed. Eat a little chocolate, drink a little coffee, eat some fruit. Is your place cluttered? Make it harmonious and pretty.Make yourself more harmonious and pretty. Every day do something nice for somebody else.
2006-11-29 11:54:14
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answered by Anonymous
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You absolutely, positively, have to go to the doctor. Not a psychiatrist, not a therapist, your regular family doctor. He will probably know what you're saying before you say it. Depression and other mental disorders are clearly visible to the trained eye, trust me. What you think you portray to the world, you may be fooling only yourself.
Trust me, daylight is right around the corner. The doc can give you meds that will make you amazed you ever felt this way.
2006-11-29 11:41:57
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answered by Ade 6
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No, you should go to the doctor and have them run blood tests...Maybe you have a chemical imbalance that can be corrected with medication. One of my cousins had an imbalance and the medication did wonders for her. Working out also helped because the endorpins levels went up and made her happier. Maybe find somebody you really trust to talk about your problems. We were there for her and I think that really helped her.
2006-11-29 11:46:25
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answered by Anonymous
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You really should go to the Doc. But I understand.
Just know one thing. Life gets better and even if you cannot imagine it would.
I'm sorry your not feeling well. I really hope you believe me.
Go to this website if you want to and listen to some of these podcasts. They are so uplifting. Especially Wayne Dyer.
www.hayhouse.com
You have to sign up its really easy, and then you can listen to them while online, or download to your ipod, or mp3.
If you aren't religious that doesnt mean you can't be spiritual. :o)
2006-11-29 11:47:33
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answered by idontknow 4
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The old philosophy of life
Help your self and others will be there to help you also
Doing nothing only makes it worse , out of hand.
And no one can help.
Giving up is for cowards.
doing something about it called. love and respect for your self and those who love and respect you.
2006-11-29 11:44:37
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answered by StarShine G 7
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