hey please help me , c its about his friend i have, well she is pregnet and she is only 12 and "HAD IT" with this 17 year old guy, so now she is asking for my help and i just dont know what to do, i did go out with this guy once but i am 14 and we did nothing bad! What can i do to help her, they r rumors about her now in school!
2006-11-29 11:35:15 · 8 answers · asked by CrIsTiNa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
take it easy and slow, anything you are going through has got to be ten times worse for her. has she told her parents? Be there for her as a friend and don't judge her. Ignore the rumors don't try to stop them because then they will just spread faster.
go to a counselor with her, unless the guy she slept with is planning on being a daddy she is going to be pretty much alone and can use all of the friendship she can get...
i have been in your position before.
2006-11-29 15:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to face the problem head on. Dont try and wait for it to magically disappear cuz it wont. She is probly not pregneant because it is rare, but not impossible for a 12 year old to get pregnant but you can also only get pregnant like 3 or 5 days out of a month. So be sure she is pregnant, and if she is tell the boyfriend and she will have to face her parents.
2006-11-29 17:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your friend must be very scared. But she is only 12yrs old. She needs to talk to an adult. If she doesn't want to talk to her parents then talk to a trusted adult. Maybe you can ask her to talk to your mom. Sometimes it much easier to talk to someone elses mom than you own.
Lots of things can go wrong in a 12yr who is expecting. So she needs to see a doctor right away. This could into an tubal pregnancy and she could be in danger, she could miscarry and bleed a lot and so on. So she needs to be under doctors care.
Tell her that you are her friend and you care about her. Let her know that you will be by her side at all times but she needs to talk to an adult. If she doesn't agree to do this then if I were I would talk to my own mother. Hopefully your mom is someone you can trust who will talk your friends mom or help her in some way. Also maybe there is a teacher or adult at school your friend can talk to.
Good luck.
2006-11-29 14:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a bad thing that she had the baby. but what you can do is if you want to and if it is ok you can give her baby some of ur old baby blankets and bottles and question is the father still around? if he is he needs to get a job if he's not she can sew him and make him pay child support. but the most thing you can do is be her friend and be supportive of her.
2006-11-29 15:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell a trusted teacher like a guidence councler. She should tell her mother no matter what in case she goes in to labor or if she miscarries the babie because her mom wont be able to trust her anymore. Her parents will love her no matter what.
2006-11-29 11:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do her parents know? if not, someone needs to tell them. because she is only 12(shudders) she will need parental consent to either terminate the preganancy as well as get much of the health options she needs. is she absolutely sure she is pregnant? at that young of an age it's not unheard of to have irregular periods. and just so she knows, having sex with that boy is illegal for her. it's called statutory rape, which means even thoguh she gave consent, he can be charged with rape because she is a minor. take her to Planned PArenthood, who will give her tests to amke sure she is pregnant, as well as for STD's. then, encourage her to tel her parents. they will find out sooner or later, and it's better sooner.
2006-11-29 23:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to give the baby up for adoption. Or keep the baby. She can go through labor and pregnancy. It's not going to kill her.
2006-11-30 06:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the guy arrested and tell her parents.Pathetic for a guy who's 17 to go with children.
2006-11-29 11:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant really do anyhting to help, it was her choice. did she already have the baby? as for the rumors just ignore them tell people to grow up and quit being immature
2006-11-29 11:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by UH-MAN-DUH!! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋