what are the Psychological effects of Rape?

Question

please explain your experience.
i have been before.
just want to compair yours to mine.
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And is it different if its your dad?

Answer 1

Many, many possible problems can be traced back to being a rape victim. I was raped by a gang when I was 13, and the first and most devastating effect was having my first internal examination. Then there was being chaperoned around until after the trial, thinking the boys/men involved would want to harm me. Then the testimony, when I didn't know the right words to use, and was terribly embarrassed. Then the kids at school who asked idiotic questions, and some didn't even believe I didn't want it!

All in all, the primary effects are bad enough, meaning the things that are directly and consciously connected to the rape. But the secondary effects can be even worse. Thinking of myself as a "soiled dove," as it were, and especially when there were people who thought I was a volunteer. At the age of 13!!!!! Knowing it had changed my whole future as far as dating, marriage, everything having to do with sexuality was concerned. And knowing that I didn't know how it would affect me in the long run, and feeling guilty that I just wanted to forget it ever happened.

I have also concluded that my compulsive overeating was an unconscious effort to "hide behind fat." My mother suggested that the reason I was raped was that I looked too good; so I'd look so bad no one would want me.

Believe me, the ripple effects of that one aspect have been very far-reaching. Much of the drug use in my early 20s was an attempt (using amphetamines) to rid myself of the excess weight and be attractive to men -- and the ambiguities multiplied. Once you are in the environment of illegal drugs, you get offered other things . . . the snowball was rolling.

Men, think about all this the next time you start getting tempted to be a bit pushy about having your own way.

Answer 2

Fear is very powerful and if she is still being abused she will seek support from someone she trusts. Someday when your friend is ready, she will need to give herself permission to care about herself. She is not responsible for what others have done to her but she is responsible for what she does to herself. She is seeking comfort from women and that's a baby step in protecting herself, hopefully these women have secure relationships with men that are an example for her to witness that some men are good to women. She may not remember the rape when she was three, but if people are telling her about it, it is causing her mind to respond and question pain that she was too young to understand. Any pity that is being directed at her is harming her, she has a right to normal positive direction and happy hopeful thoughts. Your friend needs the same opportunity as you have to move forward in her life. You sound like a very caring person and a good friend, treat her as you would want to be treated. Don't concern yourself with her psychological effects, that was 13 years ago and she deserves to enjoy TODAY.

Answer 3

ok here's one thing,you think whitch one would caus more damage being raped as a kid or a grown up cus i speak about myself when i say its not easy at all i still have a problem with anyone forcing me to do somthing that i dont want to do even if it was a simple kiss i had that experiance when i was a child like 3 times and then twice as a teenager i dont know why me but i sure can tell you that i got married and i had no problems at all time heals but it doesnt heal everything i know what your talking about and i know how it could feel and am telling you for sure you will be ok!! and sorry for blabering that much.

Answer 4

It is devastating you feel like the worst scum on earth. You think it is your fault. Maybe you could have done something to prevent it. Thats the way you feel. In my case I had a hard time liking men. It entered into my marriage later on. I have had bad experiences all my life with men. This just made it more so. So i took it out on my husband never trusting him. Feeling in a way it was only a matter of time before he @#%$*& me over too.

Answer 5

I went thru a period of time that I didn't like any guy, I blamed any male that came my way. I didn't think I would want to get married and experience the sex but I have found that it is wonderful to be married and with the same person for most of my life.

Answer 6

It's hard to trust any man after you've been raped. As time goes on it will be easier to trust but the memories of what happened will never go away. Good luck