I currently have a girlfriend but there is a guy that I am interested in too. I don't want to break her heart but I like guys just as much as I like girls. (She's not Bi like me) Do I give him a shot behind her back?
2006-11-29 11:07:06 · 18 answers · asked by Cincere80'sBabe 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Um.. No? Poor girl.
If you're even thinking about sleeping behind your girls back, then.. Woman up, and leave the relationship. She deserves better than that, I would surmise.
I keep having to add more and more as I think on it...
That's shallow..
"Do I give him a shot behind her back?"
Again, poor girlfriend. Doesn't know what she's in for, should you do what you're asking permission to do. Hah.
2006-11-29 11:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by myoddthoughtss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if you're gay, straight, bisexual, or whatever way you identify- if you go behind someone's back with another person, you're a cheater, and you don't get any respect from me.
If you want to be with this guy and your girl at the same time, there's nothing inherently wrong with that- it's called being polyamorous (not bisexual! there are a lot of monogamous bisexuals!), and all you have to do to stop it from being cheating/an affair is tell you girlfriend and this new guy and make sure they're both okay with it. I believe that monogamy is always the best way, but if you can make polyamory work, then all the more power to you.
But do not cheat on your girlfriend, unless you are willing to sacrifice the relationship.
2006-11-29 20:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with her, if she doesn't know that you're bi, she deserves to. Many straight and gay people want nothing to with us for a long term relationships out of fear of exactly the kind of infidelity you propose. If she's okay with sharing you or if she's not, that's her call and you can go from there. If she should choose to share, then you need to find out if she'd be up for a threesome, because that's the first thing your new boyfriend is going to want. I've known bisexual people to build relationships in several ways, one was a committed relationship as far as their partners sex, plus an understanding that they go the other way, and that way only, with someone else. As one of them said, she had the only man she wanted, but she could have casual flings with women. Another case was two bisexual women and a straight guy, who basically considered themselves a married triple and were both happy and faithful. Interestingly it was not so much a guy with two wives, it was woman with a wife and husband, She was the Head of the Household since she owned the house. Last I heard that one had passed the 20 year mark. Personally, I wouldn't want to share or stray, I'm by nature monogamous, it just doesn't matter what gender of person I'm being faithful to. Whatever happens you need to be honest, if she's looking for a level of committment you don't have to give, you both need to find someone else. Cheating and deception never do a relationship any good.
2006-11-29 19:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't give him a shot behind her back. You should be honest with her, you should tell that your having conflicting feelings with her and this guy. Tell her you don't want to hurt her but you are interested in this guy and what to give that a shot (but by saying that you are kissing your relationship bye) if this is something that your not ready to do tell her that your just being honest with her but will remain faith full to her. Either way honesty will only help you in this situation. Best of Luck : )
2006-11-29 19:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shes a Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
0_o You're seriously considering cheating on her, yet you don't want to break her heart? It's time to have a talk with her about the nature of your relationship. If she's looking for something more exclusive and you're looking for a little more open relationship, then end yours with her. So many heartaches could be eased if people would just communicate...
2006-11-30 01:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure. I respect where your coming from! Im Bi too!
What i would do is tell her that your interested in boys just as much in gurls. I hope you have the best of luck gurl and i
Luv Y@
J@nis
2006-11-29 19:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-29 19:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! You Have Nothing To Lose!!! Only Endless Possibilities To Gain!!! Go 4 It!!!! (too many exclamation marks, i know)
2006-11-29 19:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, Well why don't you just shoot her in the back if you intend on hurting her.
2006-11-29 19:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Life is to short to wonder what if I did this or that.
2006-11-30 14:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋