I had been going out with this one guy for almost about 2 years. Recently, I kinda got tired of it, because he kept complaining and yelling at me about money that I made him use all the money. Well, even though I got tired of it, the yelling was better that what I'm going to talk about right now. He didn't exactly cheat on me, but last summer, he liked one girl from his work, and when he told me, he said it was nothing that he wanted me to understand. It took me a while to calm down about the problem. Also, when I went to his house during Thanksgiving day, I found some instant messages saved in his computer. There were instant messages from two other girls, and I read through it when he went to eat his snack at his kitchen. The conversations were like he was flirting with those two girls. I got mad at him, and he said he still loves me and stuff.
Now, I don't know what to do, and I'm confused whether I should stay with him or not.
what should I do?
2006-11-29 11:03:07 · 6 answers · asked by asianlover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like he´s using you, in my opinion. But let me ask you this--how *exactly* did he react when you approached him about the IM conversations. If his first reaction was to defend himself, and he professed that they mean nothing and he loves, please forgive me, etc. and so on, it´s because he feels guilty, which means there´s a reason. If he got mad at you for invading his privacy and not trusting him, then I´d say it´s worth working out.
But what you need to take with you, what I´ve recently learned the hard way, is it´s all about trust and respect. Without either, you can´t have true love, no matter how much you think you do or how much you want to believe it. If you don´t trust him, it won´t work. Period.
2006-11-30 17:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Halo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one isn't it. Do you love him? Are you willing to live with someone that you can't trust for the rest of your life? If the answer is no than you need to consider getting rid of him. Flirting with other girls and liking some girl from work is a real red flag.
Good luck.
2006-11-29 19:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont' trust him.... and you shouldn't. If he is IMing these girls and saving them, you can bet he is going to take the opportunity to cheat when it comes, if he hasn't already.
You deserve so much better than that!!! Get with some girlfriends (or sisters!) and have some fun of your own! Remember, YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER!
2006-11-29 19:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by goddess1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him try to work through it. but if your not sure anymore get rid of himfor yelling at you. and he obviously likes those girls cause he saved the ims.
2006-11-29 23:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by walrus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like it is over --- arguing over money and it looks like he is cheating ---- maybe see if you can talk to him and resolve the issues
2006-11-29 19:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a problem a few of use have....i guess when have to go with our heart.......
2006-11-29 19:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by renee r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋