why shouldn't gay couples be allowed to adopt?

Question

I need information to why they should not be allowed to have adopted children. examples and actual facts.

Answer 1

I will answer your question with a question.. and more

Who decideds who adopts??

There a millions of children.. with no parents at all.. none.. no family,... no grandparents... no aunts/uncles/cousins... nothing.....
Who decides that this life is better???? than one wiht a loving family? who doesn't like the idea and why??
religious people...
Sociecty USED to be ruled by the church... our society has evolved from the rulage.
Basic laws such as adoption and marriage are formed from these religouse bases.
Now law is seperate from religion.


There are no stats that prove that haveing gay parents affect the child in any way.... It is society that will affect the child.

Having gay parents will not "make" you gay..
what it will do is make you more open to new ideas and differences of people.

The arguments against gay couples adopting are flimsy and based from an era of religouse patriarchy control. The arguments againts adoption are based on 'principle' not on what is best for the child.....
Having two gay parents over none... over abusive... over one parent is desirable for the child not 'society'

sorry i know its not much help to your question... try looking at religous sites on the web... google/yahoo it to bring up websites.
I do know that no stats 'prove' anything bad... other then societies reaction.

Answer 2

Someday, for the sake of all the adoptable children out there, it will be mainstream. however, right now in this day and time, there are way to may of us who look down upon gays in general. even tho they have become an integral part of our society in all aspects. They are mainly looked down upon by government, Religion, and the most comonly afforded; fear of what you don't understand ( which most would be classified under. It is these facts that we govern our own children, and in turn it is how our own children govern themselves when confronted by a situation they just dont get. Anger towards the child of a gay couple is the most likely reason it has yet to be allowed.

Answer 3

There really aren't any real and actual facts. Morally wrong doesn't cut it. If a couple qualifies to adopt a child they should be allowed to, gay or not.

Answer 4

There are no "good" reasons at all. All arguments are based in hate, intolerance and ignorance.

Gay and lesbian couples are allowed to adopt in many states. These children are at no risk of "catching" homosexuality, or being "maladjusted" and all studies which say they are are all dismissed because they lack peer review.
NOT one of these studies have EVER been conclusive as to it being detrimental to the psychological or physical health or happiness of the child.
The American Association of Pediactrics actually endorces same sex couples as well suited to parent as well as opposite sex couples. Children raised in these families grow up to be well adjusted, happy, no more of a percentage of them turn out to be gay/lesbian, and most are actually MORE tolerant of individual differences in ALL people.

Children raised by same sex couples are at no more risk of being bullied than the kid with glasses, the over weight kid, or the kid who walks or talks differently than anyone else.

From personal experience as a lesbian parent, my son has NEVER experienced bullying or being picked on for having two female parents. He's happy, healthy, a good student, a hardworker, well liked and appropriately popular, athletic and talented in music. He has no confussion as to who his biological mother is, and sees my partner as another parent, regardless of gender. He has many adult male role models in his life, including but not limited to my father, my brother, my seven adult male cousins and his biological father.

Most adoptive families have extended and "chosen" families as well which play a HUGE role in the upbringing of children brought into these family situations.
Gender roles are a social construct which is largely based in religious ideals/morals. Many families throughout history have had various forms and make-ups.
Grandparents raising their grandchildren, Aunts and Uncles taking in their nieces and/or nephews. Close neighbors or friends taking over parental roles.
My best friend was raise by her mother and grandmother because her father died in a car accident when she was an infant. She suffered no hatred of men, no gender confussion, no sexual insecurities.

Answer 5

a child has a God given right to balance in thier lives.they didnt ask to be here,so we as parents need to give them a well rounded and stable life so they have a chance to grow up healthy and normal,a gay couple would be a lopsideded family unit for a child.i am not anti gay but i am a parent.first of all a child forms his life patterns and most preferences in early child hood.he or she should have choices and should have the oppertunity to be straight if they so choose.having both parents of the same sex will seem normal to them and it would be a foreign concept to them to have parents of different sexes.so chances are he or she will grow up sexually confused..not to mention how the other kids will treat him or her when they find out..depression comes next when the child cannot be accepted by his or her peers..and you have an emotionally unbalanced child.this is unfair to the child on so many levels.dont get me wrong i have several gay friends and know them to be loving,caring human beings.i dont agree with thier sexual choices but as a friend i will support them.but when you bring a child into the mix,then it becomes a different story.orphans deserve a loving family and i applaud anyone willing to give love and support to an unwanted child,but if you are gay and do adopt a child,if you truly love that child try to give the child the most normal life you can give them..again..they didnt ask to be here.

Answer 6

I am a gay man, but I do believe children age 5 and under should be raised by a mother and father. Children absorb a lot, their sense of gender roles are impressionable and they should have both an adult male and female in their home to guide them.

Infant babies do not choose their parents. To put them in a gay or lesbian household at birth will give them a warped view of inter-personal relationships. Kids under 5 should not live in a gay household. Let the child choose to have two mummies or two daddies when they are ready to go to school.

Remember - we gay men are a minority. We are unusual. We have no power. Technically, by sheer numbers, we are abnormal.

Answer 7

i dont know why they shouldnt be as long as they pass all teh prerequisites just like any other couple...whos to say that every straight couple that has adopted has been great parents..i thinnk if you have love to give a child. and give them an open view to the world.i think it should be possible

Answer 8

There is no reason it should not be allowed. Studies have proven that children raised in a same sex household are just as well adjusted and happy as those in a heterosexual household.

Answer 9

ok gay people can adopt try


adoptuskids .org (or) .com

Answer 10

there are no factual reasons. just theories by people that don't know any gay people.