my daughter and masturb*tion?

Question

...i've recently had the unfortunate chance of catching my fifteen year old daughter in the act of mastrub*ting.. several times. yesterday i walked in while she was supposingly doing homework, and instead found her masturb*ting for someone on her webcam. last night i came home earlier than expected, and i heard her moaning in her room, again caught her. this morning she told me she was going out to jog for a while-- while she was out i went to get something out of my car, and realized that she was hiding in the backseat of HER car, masturb*ting! ...i don't know how to bring up the subject to talk to her about it.. i've caught her doing it three times in the past 24hrs! should i talk to her about it? is it normal for her to do it this often? what about the webcam incident?! i don't know who she was doing that for! ..help, please????

Answer 1

Politely, give her sex education and tell her about the disadvantages of masterbation(degraded thinking, effects(damage) on the reproductive organ and brain, feeling dirty/guilty after masterbation, self hatred, mental disorder, sexual addictions, giving in to men easily, breasts fall, imatiation etc). Then let her make decistions. Don't yell at (scold) her, take away the webcam if you catch her after your polite talk and don't take away her privacy. It is not every child that masterbates and escapes at least two or more of these disadvantages in the future(maybe 3 to 10 years later). She may feel harrassed or disturbed if you always stop her and talk to her.Polite talk with two or more warnings is okay; let her make a choice to stop it or continue. The truth is no matter how strong the urge to mastabate is, there is always power to resist/refuse to do it and succeed. The thinking aspect of it (e.g thinking of having sex) can be aborted at its early stages and avoided or replaced with better and moral thoughts. Please, don't be offended by my answer. I was a victim of this and just want to help.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with masturbating or how often she's doing it. The problem is that she's doing it on a webcam which can be dangerous and she could very well be letting someone take advantage of her. Just sit her down and be open and talk about it. Try to make it as least embaressing as you can for her, don't tell her all the times you caught her, just the webcam incident. and just make sure that she knows you're there to talk to if she has any concerns or questions (not about HOW to ... i mean ... about her body etc)

Answer 3

I don't think it's right to masturbate for someone else on a webcam, but there's nothing wrong with masturbating. It's up to the parent I guess, but masturbation is a perfectly healthy experience. If you cought her doing it 3 times in 24 hours, you might need to do something. As the parent, you shouldn't feel scared about talking to her, after all you were a 15 year old too.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to her about what is going on. It may just be consequence but there is a 15 year old girl asking a similar question on here. You really need to talk to her but be very gentle. She is just exploring her self in ways that should be done in Private. She needs to know that you understand her especially now that you have caught her. It is normal but not to be broadcasting it on line. I would take the web cam out of her room and explain why as well. She needs to know that what is going on is normal but this is a private act that no one else need to see or even experience with her at her age. Go talk to her because she obviously needs someone to talk to since she is posting questions on yahoo about all of this. Be a great parent and get over the fact that you caught her and be more upset that she was broadcasting her self.

Answer 5

Masturbation is normal as long as it's not out of control. Your daughter sounds very umm promiscuous if I was you I'd think about putting her on birth control. Have a talk with her about privacy, the right way to use the internet and her webcam (which I'd take the comp and webcam out of her room and put it in a central room in the house where she can be watched), and talk to her about sex and the risks and of course if she's having it. I know as a parent it's hard to admit that your child, your little girl, might be sexually active but seriously think about what I’m telling you. You've been on here; there are 13 yr olds who are getting pregnant. Talk to her about safe sex, put her on birth control.

Answer 6

She's 15 and masturbation in normal. Why are u freakin out about it? Maybe u can suggest she be a little more discreet, but don't make her feel ashamed. And maybe u could respect her privacy a little more and knock before u walk into her room. Maybe then she wouldn't have to resort to doing it in her car. As for the webcam thing, that's a problem. Take the webcam away from her, y would she need one anyway?

Answer 7

I have a hard time believing this story but, here's my 2 cents ...

You don't need to bring up the subject, you've caught her at it 3 times, the subject has been brought up. You are the parent, you need to talk to her. Tell her that masturbating in general is normal but, she needs to be discrete when she does it (ie the privacy of her bedroom with the door closed). You need to respect her privacy as far as not just walking into her bedroom if the door is closed.

As far as the web cam incident goes, that is completely unacceptable and dangerous. She's going to get herself hurt. If I were you I would be taking her computer away (a teen shouldn't have one in their room anyhow, it should be in a public place in your home) and explain to her that that is pornography (child porn) and is illegal not to mention completely trashy.

So there is my big answer to your probable BS question. Good luck!!!

Answer 8

About the webcam incident, you shoud take the webcam away from her, because it is very dangerous when it comes to sexual offenders. About the whole mast****n thing you MUST talk to her about it... this is a time where she is discovering her body and new feelings, (bright side, she is probably not having sex) Talk to her about pregnancy, and STDs. I would recomend you to stay as calm as possible when talking about it, do not get mad/ yell at her, that would be pointless.

I would encourage her to read about adolescence with you. Guide her through this rough years that are about to come to her.

I think that if I knew more about STDs when I was young, I would have approached sex in a different, safer way. Luckily I didn't do anything that I would regret today.

Answer 9

While masturbating is normal for a fifteen year old, doing it on a web cam is disturbing. I would take her cam away and maybe restrict her Internet use. She could get into serious trouble doing that and she is too young to know the repercussions of doing this. I wouldn't say anything to her about masturbating, she might get highly embarrassed and with drawl. Just simply say that you have been scared of the Internet lately because of all the news about child molesters on the net and you are concerned for her safety. She is going to yell but wouldn't you rather have her safe?

Answer 10

The webcam thing is really scary-you never know what sexual predator could be watching her.I would definantly take that away from her-who knows how often she does it on the cam.As far as masturbating in private-let her do it-at least she is not having sex-hopefully anways!But yea,the cam thing is going wayyyy too far!

Answer 11

Wow - tough one! First of all, tell her to say bye-bye to the webcam and perhaps the Internet in general. If she's doing that on her webcam, she surely is chatting in ways a 15 year old shouldn't.
Second, catching her is an opportunity for you to talk to her. 3 times in 24 hours for a 15 year old, especially after getting caught, surprises me. It's not a terrible thing, but I would suggest talking to her about her feelings, explaining that it's natural to have urges, but it's important to control them. This is also a good time to get in that dreaded 'sex talk' as she's obviously thinking about it. Most important is she needs to honor herself and her body by not displaying it for others as she was doing on the webcam.
Best of luck...