The closer I get to 16 weeks the more fear I feel. I lost my son at 16 weeks in Jan. and I thought the closer I got and knowing that everything is looking great would be a relief, but I find myself scared to death and counting down days until I reach that point. I'm 14 weeks and a few days but I can shake the fear of the past repeating itself....shouldn't I be feeling more relieved at every passing day? I also find myself thinking of my son more often and crying more now, I'll never forget him, but I had reached the point where I knew he was in a better place, but now I'm just scared, any suggestions to help ease the fear?
2006-11-29 09:56:14 · 10 answers · asked by justwondering 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It makes total sense to me. I have heard it from many women who have suffered miscarriage and I think that the fear stays with you for every pregnancy after the miscarriage. I had a miscarriage right before I got pregnant with my daughter and I was a wreck the whole time. When she was born healthy and whole I finally was able to let go of some of my fear. If the fear is debilitating, you may want to see a professional. Otherwise, what I did was just try to put it from my mind. I did meditation and didn't let myself talk to other women about miscarriage or stillbirth because I was so afraid. With pregnancies after that it was much easier and I was able to talk about it with others. Some women finds it helps though and there are many pregnancy and new mother chats out there. I love the babycenter chat. There are always plenty of moms and preggos in there and rarely any people messing around. Good Luck
2006-11-29 10:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by experiencedmotherof4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is natural that you are feeling this way because of losing your son at 16 weeks. My prediction is that once you get passed the 16 week mark you might start to feel a little bit more relieved, but I doubt that you will feel 100% relief until your healthy baby is in your arms. In this situation I would look to my ob/gyn/practiotioner for reassurance that the baby is looking healthy. I would focus on the fact that even though you lost your son at 16 weeks, the chances of having a healthy baby increase as your pregnancy progresses. I think that you have to try and relax. Stress is not healthy for anybody. I would try some self-soothing techniques like progressive muscle relaxation or meditation. Best wishes!
2006-11-29 18:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Toadsputum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage at only 7 weeks, and when I got pregnant again, I was terrified. Once the 7 week point hit I was still scared because I was still worried. Honestly I was very nervous until I hit the 26 week mark because I had read that at that point the survival rate was very high. It's hard not to worry. It's normal under the conditions. The farther along to get the better you will feel. Good luck to you!
2006-11-29 18:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal... The closer you get to a tragic event, the memories come back. Just breath and relax and as soon as the dreaded 16 week mark passes you will be fine. If its so bad you are having anxiety attacks then you should see a Dr because that's not good for the baby either. Good Luck.
2006-11-29 17:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime its hard to lose a child. My first 2 miscarriages put me through hell....but you should know that stress releases toxins that attack the weakest part of your body...and right now it is your baby. So try to avoid stress wherever possible, go for a walk, read a book, watch your favorite movie....anything you enjoy that won't hurt the baby. And also, just imagine that your son is smiling down on you from heaven, trying to give you encouragement and hope. Best of luck, and i hope that this helped you at least some!
2006-11-29 18:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sheree G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look ahead, and think about your future, If you are so fearfull I think that you are taking good care of your pregnancy... keep yourself busy reading and maybe some yoga would help calm you down a little more. Thing about your baby that is comming to this world, and how happy you will be then, not about haw sad you are because of soemthing in the past..
I wish you the best of lucks, and that you have a nice healthy pregnancy.
2006-11-29 18:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by notsome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I am sure that was very hard. I believe that the fear part is normal b/c of what you went through. But it isn't good for you or the baby to stress out, so you might want to talk to your doctor about your worries. Maybe they have some kind of tips for you. And once again I am very sorry for your loss. God bless you and your little one. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-29 19:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you stress the more chance you have of losing another. Just find someone to talk to or a funny movie to watch over and over again. But try not to stress on ANYTHING! My Doctor told me that stress is the leading cause of miscarriage, so stay as far from it as possible.
2006-11-29 18:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer86420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I am sorry for you loss. I don't think there is anything you can do to not be scared. Just know that most of the time it wont happen twice. Maybe talking about it will help. Good luck, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-11-29 17:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iknow hunie it is very hard to lose a child at that time in the pregnancy. just dont stress it and have faith that this baby will be ok. 2 miscarriages in a row is very uncommon so keep your head up and im sorry to hear for your last loss
2006-11-29 18:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋