He knows I am straight, but he came over and sai "Just let the magic happen" and tried to kiss me. I have told him before that I am happily married and talk to my wife on the phone 2 or 3 times a day. In the past I have told him that I support gay marrage and gay rights, and I guess he got the wrong message. I don't want him to get fired, but I don't want him to do that again, what should I do?
2006-11-29 09:35:00 · 18 answers · asked by mexiknig 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Many years ago I had this problem in reverse. I am terribly sorry that it happened to you. It is a bit traumatizing. I remember being trapped in my tiny little office when I was about 21 by a woman who was insisting that if I just let myself, I would leave my boyfriend (my second one at that time) and fall in love with her. After saying no and asking her to leave, I had no clue what to do. I think it took me 8 months to get over it. The more I remember the sorrier I am that it happened to you.
Tell him very clearly, then show him this message -- have him email me if he needs a gay man to tell him that support for gays is to be lauded, and does not mean you are gay.
I'm so sorry.
Regards,
Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 09:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest treat this the same way you would any unwanted attention in the workplace. Talk to him directly first, stating you don't want this to go any further, but you don't appreciate the unwanted attention, but if he does continue in this manner you will not hesitate to use the channel available to you to file a complaint. It sounds like you're being a prude or lacking humor. However I would say the bottom line is you should feel free to be who you want to be in the workplace without being harassed in any way. Therefore if someone is being unfairly harassing, even after being warned then the company harassment policy is there to protect you!
2006-11-29 09:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm thinking it exchange into in all hazard purely a cutting-edge. She feels like an incredible female and confident I do think of you're looking into it too plenty. As for the signs and indications to hunt for sooner or later, all of those you haven't any longer seen, particularly a similar signs and indications you get from men.
2016-10-04 12:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to him ............you approach him and say something like this ........and mean it, but dont say it mean!
Look "Joe" your advances went too far the other day. I do not appreciate it, nor do I expect to have to deal with something so revolting again. I am telling you I am not interested, don't think you will change me because you wont. Touch me again or give me one to suggestive innuendo and I will go to management and lodge a sexual harassment complaint against you. Is that understood?
Great!
2006-11-29 13:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and if he continues I would tell my boss and perhaps my husband to settle the issue. I would tell them that you do not want him fired only to stay put and leave you along with his remarks as to having any kind of relations with him except work only.
2006-11-29 09:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be upfront and tell him that the advances he has made are inappropiate. He needs to respect his co-workers. Next time if it happens let your supervisor know. It could be considered sexual harrassment.
2006-11-29 09:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are very flattered but you are straight and are not at all interested. Tell him you respect him as a friend, but nothing else will happen between the two of you
2006-11-29 09:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him exactly what you have said here. You'd rather not get him fired but you cannot tolerate harassment.
If he refuses to hear then you really have no choice but to go to his superior.
2006-11-29 12:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would warn him that his behavior constitutes sexual harassment, and if he makes you uncomfortable like that again you should report him as you would report anyone. Gay, bi, or straight, no means no.
2006-11-29 09:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know how us women have felt for years getting unwanted sexual advances and comments at work. We just learn how to deal with these guys. If he's only flirting just play dumb and ignore it. If he's making sexual advances or touching you then you have to firmly tell him to knock it off. If he continues then tell him if he doesn't stop you're going to report him for harassment. If he keeps doing it after this then you may have no choice but to report it to your supervisor.
2006-11-29 10:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋