Is it true that gays and bis think that were born that way..?

Question

there are so many people that think that they were born this way.. i dont think that you in your mother womb made a decision to become gay or les.. please let me know what you tihnk???

Answer 1

People are almost certainly homosexual because of genetics. There is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.

The fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, Xq28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose, and has been evolutionarily preferred. The recent Italian study by Andrea Camperio-Ciani and colleagues pretty clearly shows both how and why a gene or gene set causing homosexuality, particularly in males - would survive and be preferred evolutionarily.

In addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are.

There is nothing either wrong or unnatural about being homosexual. Enjoy the links -- and think about the gay people you know. While some, particularly younger ones, may be risk takers or may be into drugs --- think about the young straight men you know -- how many of them are risk takers -- or into drugs? It's gender and age far more than sexuality. Others are, I would bet, settled, calm, caring and successful.

The only thing being gay does is change who you sleep with. No one chooses it however, no one is driven to "that path." It is simply natural and normal for some people. As I am sure you would hate to be told consistently, by everyone around you, that being heterosexual was evil, wrong, unnatural -- and "that path" when you know perfectly well it is natural to you, understand that gay people feel the exact same way. It is natural and normal to a gay person -- and having intercourse with, or romance with -- a member of the opposite gender is unnatural and abnormal.

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Reynolds Jones
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Answer 2

Gay, lesbians and bis were born that way. Every gay, bi or lesbian I know grew up in household that disapproved of relations with the same sex. If gay people chose to become gay then I think there would be a lot less. Most people are surrounded more by opposite sex relationships than gay ones. They are on tv, sang about in music, read about in books. In that sexuality class there is no talking about same sex realtionships. So if gay people choose to be gay where are they getting the idea of it from? I certainly didn't grow up with that being talked about at family dinners of watched in the home. If a family member was thought to be gay there were plenty of whispers and gossip about it going around. Now why would a person willingly choose to be such an outcast in the eyes of their own family(All of the gay people I know have a lot of family members that disapprove?) I'm sure they are born that way. It's the only explanation that truly makes sense, although there are no "scientific facts" to support my opinion.

Answer 3

Why does it matter whether they think they were born that way or not? How does it effect a non-queer person at all what the gender of the person I choose to sleep with is. (Note, I do choose to sleep with people, I don't choose what gender people I'm attracted to are...)

The fact is, gay/lesbian/bisexual/whatever, they are still human. What they do in their bedrooms doesn't effect you, nor does it effect you in any way whether a person was born that way or whether they chose it.

Personally I'm of the belief that a person can't choose to be a particular sexuality. I tried so hard to choose to be straight when I first thought I was gay, and it didn't work. For the same reason, I don't think a straight person could choose to be gay.

Whether I was born this way, whether it had to do with my environment, that's not what's important. What's important is that it is part of who I am, I can't change it, and I'm going to accept it. I'm still human, so therefor, I feel I should have exactly the same rights as a straight person.

Answer 4

I am neither gay or bi, but I tend to think there are predispostions to it. Often, alot of the people were abused and changed their sexuality due to confusion or pain, but others even as children were more feminine or masculine. The brain structure in homosexuals is also different from that of a straight person. There are many factors to consider. I think for a minority it may be a conscious decision, but why would you want to put yourself through that discrimination?

Answer 5

it isn't a conscious decision. It is a biological imperative. They are wired that way. Who would choose to be discriminated against? Who would choose to be hated and judged? The religious people in the world have to argue that it is a lifestyle choice because, if they were born that way then they are creations of God, touched with the same Divinity as everybody else and, therefore, cannot be judged by man.

Answer 6

Yes we were born that way. If you research this the brain of a straight man and a gay man are quite different. There is plenty of research you can find to answer your questions as to why people are gay or lesbian if you take the time to look for it.

Answer 7

It is an undecided debate. There is no solid evidence on either side of the argument that would say 100% of the time if X is the case then you are gay or straight. I know people who are gay that say they chose that lifestyle and others who feel they were born that way. So, I guess we sit patiently and wait for better research.

Answer 8

I think when you become emotionally mature enough to be capable of real love, then you have no control over who you fall in love with. I dont think that they were like "Hmmm im 7, im gonna be gay now...." no. they realized it when they had no feelings for members of the opposite sex. I think everyone needs to stop persecuting them and just let them be. They arent hurting anything. They are in love, whats so disgusting abou that?

Answer 9

Did you make a conscious decision in the womb to be heterosexual or were you born that way?

Answer 10

Were you born the way you are or did you go to training? The answer will be the same for us.