I'm 13, my mom is really wonderful but too worried about modesty. I have nice clothes, I always look cute, but I have some friends my age who are allowed to show a bit more of their bodies. One of mom's law is I alwyas have to wear a bra even when it's hot and in Australia its hot. She's inflexible about this, and my bras must give proper coverage and no see through, because she thinks support is important and doesn't want me to be decently dressed. Bras ometimes suck. Sometimes I complain, tell her some of my friends mom's are less strict about their bras but mom just say something like Maybe hun, Im' your mom, love you, worry about you and that's how it's gonna be at least while you're under my roof. I know it's out of love, I don't fight, don't disobey and of course I won't leave home because of this, but isn't she too strict?
2006-11-29 09:10:34 · 30 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She's not too strict at all. She loves you and doesn't want you to have the appearance of being easy. I have a 17 year old daughter, and it makes me very uncomfortable when grown men look at her chest and try to pick her up and she's not even an adult!!! My wife and I have always made her dress modestly, and she fought it, but now she understands that there are plenty of perverts out there, and she's happy we've done what we have.
2006-11-29 09:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Look...its about presenting yourself as a person. Your self-image is involved. Going braless in the privacy of your own home is okay. But when you go braless shows more than you think. Anytime a woman is not wearing a bra it is very obvious. It's not a matter of your mother being strict its a matter of her teaching you self-respect. Honor yourself by covering up. Boys/men will get the wrong idea and get to look at you through your clothes. Trust me. Your mom is right. You may not think so now because you are 13, but one day you'll look back and thank your mom. You'll be thankful that she cared enough to teach you about self-respect. You should give her an extra hug for that!
2006-11-29 09:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marcia,
It can be so hard when your friends "get" to do things you don't, but don't forget: just because your friends are doing things, that doesn't make it right for you. (This applies to a lot of things in life as I'm sure you've noticed.)
You have to decide on your own how you want to present yourself, independently of your friends.
Your mom doesn't want you to be modest because she thinks there is something wrong with your body. It's because you're special and worth it! You are much more than just your body and when you wear 'see-through' it becomes that much harder to 'see-through' to who you are as an individual, inside.
Remember moms are under pressure nowadays too, to think "it's no big deal" and "if you've got it, flaunt it." So consider yourself VERY lucky to have a mom who not only loves you, but is strong enough to go against the current. She wants people to see your real beauty and that's great.
Take care, and and I left my URL to prove to you that no, I am not your mom. :-)
2006-11-30 13:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is fair. I am 12 and a girl and my mom is same way. I dont get to dress like my friends do so i dont show much skin and my skirts have to be long and my jeans cant go down low so you can see my underthings, i always have 2 wear a bra too and i dont have hardly anething to put in there! I know not comfortabl but i think u mom is just worried for yuo like mine is. Its OK GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-29 10:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course bras suck sometimes, but if you've got boobs (wee're talking over an a cup, a cups can get away with it) you'll be more comfortable wearing one. or try getting tanktops that have bras built in. they're warm weather clothes, and they're relatively comfy. and your mom isn't too strict. not wearing a bra makes girls look trashy and easy, and i'm assuming that's not what you want to thought of...
2006-11-29 23:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your mom. Showing skin is not tasteful. It gives a bad inpression for the boys.
As for the bras? Your 13, you should be wearing a bra. Any teenager should. This is a great law your mom has!
2006-11-29 10:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, how old are you? As a woman, you will eventually find that bras are TOTALLY NECESSARY you don't want saggy boobs when you're 35, so try to get used to it. Of all things your mom could make you be super modest about, this is the least of your worries. Be glad she isn't checking your skirt and shirt sizes.
Good Luck!!! :)
2006-11-29 09:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I agree with your mom. I'm in my early 20's and I really don't think she is being to strict on you. My mom would have had the same rule if it had ever come up. My advice is just to put up with it until you move out or turn 18 or whatever. Then it will be your decision.
2006-11-29 09:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
properly, I do sympathize with you because of the fact I particularly have continually hated wearing bras and that i continually pass and not using a bra on each occasion available - to illustrate, if my blouses are no longer tight setting up, no longer see by way of, actual no bra. I additionally stay in a rustic the place it quite is warm and that's uncomfortable to positioned on a bra, yet while i think that's had to positioned on a bra, i will gain this even with my soreness and on each occasion, i will pass bra-much less without feeling that i'm showing something, I do this besides. even although, because of the fact which you're in basic terms 13, you quite do could pay attention on your mom. believe me, your mom loves you and he or she in basic terms needs what's proper for you. She is performing on your appropriate pursuits in basic terms. additionally, once you reside with your mom, you do could keep on along with her regulations. it quite is in basic terms how that's - your mom is your parent - she is to blame on your properly being and so she gets to make the options on your behalf. even although, once you're older and leave homestead, you may come to a determination if and once you will positioned on a bra. then you actual would be to blame on your guy or woman life and could make your guy or woman judgements.
2016-12-13 16:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like my answer but no, I don't think she's being too strict at all. I see girls your age that are dressed way, WAY too skimpy. I definitely think you need to wear a bra too--might as well get used to it!! You'll have to wear one for the rest of your life!
2006-11-29 09:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋