What are somethings I can say to my boyfriend to....?

Question

convince him to want to keep the baby, or just hit the reality of this situation, or even make him feel bad to want me to get an abortion?

just to add some detail...
I am 18 done with school with a job!
my boyfriend is 20, with a good job!
yes were going to get married! and i am totally against abortion, hes more worried about us not having a house together, and just the finacial part of it!

Answer 1

Try telling him that u really want to keep the baby and that u want someone else to be in the house with u when he is away and u really want to have the baby. Sit him down and talk to him and tell him how u feel. It might seem like a hard thing to do but its worth it. He might end up changing his mind after a while.
U never know.
Give it some time.

Answer 2

Either way, he needs to face reality. As do you... if you indeed want the baby, and will do anything you can for this baby, then whether or not he wants it, is up to him. There's a chance he won't stay with you if he doesn't want the baby, but he should grow up. You both should know, that by having sex, you can get pregnant- even on birth control pills- I did. Take responsibility for your actions- both you and your boyfriend.

I was nervous my boyfriend at the time would leave me too... he didn't... we married after we had our son- but only out of love for one another, not because of our baby. We accepted the fact I got pregnant, and became excited - our son is absolutely amazing. I couldn't imagine my life without him... and had my boyfriend left me when I found out, i would have still had my son- he meant the world to me even before he was born. So whatever you decide to do, is completely up to you, but don't try to make him feel bad about anything- and he shouldn't make you feel bad about anything either- it's a baby we're talking about.

Get on the healthy start program and WIC- if you qualify for those, they help tremendously! Your doctor visits, eye doctor visits, dentist visits, formula, baby cereal, juice, milk, etc etc will all be paid for by those. If we all waited to have children for financial reasons, there wouldn't be any here today. Trust me, I wasn't financially ready yet either... but it works out... have faith! Also- work your way up- you are both still young- you have time to get even better jobs- that's what my parents did- rented a house until they could afford to buy one. We rent an apartment right now, but hope to rent a house here soon, then work our way up to owning one. Goodluck!

Answer 3

Its hard to make someone want a baby. Just be firm in what you want, and if you want to keep it, make sure he understands that. Don't let him bully you into doing something you can regret.

If you feel you are both too young for this responsibility, there is always adoption! There are so many loving couples that would love to give your baby a home.

Answer 4

it sounds like you are using that Innocent baby to control situation off all the STD and operation's its going on i would thing you would be More mature, how about adoption i don't think both of you are not so ready to raise a baby, trust i know i raised 3 off them.

Answer 5

its your choice....Not his....but if I was you I would think about my future before doing anything.There is always the Adoption way to go.Not only do you get a chance to finish school,but you'll be helping adults who can't concieve their own baby,and then your baby will have a better chance at life.

Answer 6

If he doesnt support you and your old enough with enough means then screw him have your baby and he can just have a ruined relationship and still pay child support

Answer 7

IF YOU GUYS ARE GOING TO GET MARRIES ANY WAY DONT LOSS YOUR FIRST SON OR DOUGHHTER! YOU WILL REGRET IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND THAT IF HE LOVES YOU TO KEEP THE BABY AND WHY DOSN'T HE WANT IT! KEEP IT ANYWAY!

Answer 8

Go to the website I've posted. They are trained to handle this kind of question.