they r buying assets for themselves and their elder son .we don't have any savings b'coz of that .My husband is really caring and loving and he never says no to them . He thinks that when he will need it they will give him back but i know its not possible as they r making house and they don't have that kind of money . .We already had so many heated discussions about that and he always becomes so emotional.
my problem is I don't work I stay at home coz of my immigration status but this whole situtation makes me so insecure for our future .
other than that he loving ,caring,gentle and so much more.
this whole situtation sometimes make me feel why i m worried about his money when he doesn't thinks of securing his wife and
kids future ..please help
2006-11-29 08:55:28 · 7 answers · asked by sassy_girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband needs to be reminded that he married you not his parents and it's not his responsibility to take care of them. He has his own family to provide for. And as parents they should be more understanding of that. A lot of times families think that because their family members is married that there is more money for them but that is just not true. If they need money, they might need to look to some other sources for income. Remember is one of the top reasons why marriages end in divorce. Continue to talk to your husband a bout this and maybe he will see the light. I feel your pain was in the same situation with my ex.
2006-11-29 09:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In law problems are one of the major causes of family break ups.Talk to your husband since he is the one earning it is his choice where to put his money. As I see it he loves his parents more than you. He is treating you as a domestic help in your house since you have immigration problem. You are just his sex partner that is why he is not giving you enough money for savings. You are just a baby machine for him. Put down your foot and demand from him or you will end out in the cold.
2006-11-29 09:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he need to realize that the money they are asking for is for WANTS not NEEDS... Theres a big difference. He needs to understand that his Family (wife and children) are his FIRST priority or at least should be. Even though he brings in the money, as husband and wife, you should have a say in things also.
2006-11-29 09:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his parents truly need the money, try to help them some. But, don't sacrifice your own family/baby at their expense. Your husband is probably torn and put in the middle--trying to help them and trying to provide for you/child. Be supportive--sit down and budget some to help them. But, if if the inlaws don't need the money, then he needs to tell them to buzz off.
2006-11-29 09:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now i understand how u feel but my mom does always tell me the more u give with a good heart the more you will recieve....
And the more u bring it up the more it will damage you relationship with him so sometimes u jus have to closed your mouth and say nothing
2006-11-29 09:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out a budget for your own family, and decide what amount if any can go to his parents. He doesn't sound loving, he sounds very weak.
2006-11-29 08:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its sound like you need to set up a budget for your family and stick to it and to explain this to your husband.could you e- mail me i have a question to ask you if you dont mind. thank you
2006-11-29 09:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋