I moved in with my boyfriend, 3 months ago. Because he wanted it to be just the two of us. And without letting me know he decides that he wants to have a room mate. Im not okay with it because the place we have has two bedrooms, And i don't think that I will feel comfortable, with sharing my home with someone i don't even know, for 6-12months. But no matter what i say, he has made up his mind to have a room mate. So what should i do?
2006-11-29 08:51:30 · 11 answers · asked by Sexy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmm.. well I could see why he would want a roommate mainly for financial purposes, and hey, there is an extra room, so why not?
BUT he's wrong for not including you in this decision or caring much for what you have to say about it. there are two ways I see of solving this situation
1. accept that he wants a roommate and interview them. see how they make you feel, cuz let me tell you something, there's nothing better than a woman's inuition, and if you meet someone and you just feel like this person is bad, move on to the next one.
or
2. talk to him again and say "look I'm just not comfortable with this, if you get a roommate, I'm just going to have to move out." because really, if he wanted it to be just the two of you, then why would he even think about another roommate and go on with it without your blessing?
unfortunately this may end up being just one of those lose-lose situations.
hope I've been helpful!
2006-11-29 08:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by .:*giggles*:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, when you "move in" with someone you are basically playing house. You are taking the car for a test run, as the expression goes, so this is what life would be with your boyfriends should you decide to marry him. I say that you should learn your lesson from this and move out. He doesn't care about your point of view and the sooner you realize this, the better. When a guy moves in with a girl without marrying her, she is just a butty to have for the time being, nothing more.
I would call mom and dad, a few friends, and plan to move out right away. Don't be anybody's concubine. Value yourself and only move in with the man who puts a ring on your finger. You should also be mature--26ish and have some money in the bank.
CHeers,
Mr. M on "boyfriend."
2006-11-29 16:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he has his mind made up no matter how you feel about it. then i guess you could pack your things and move out.then tell your boyfriend that maybe in 6-12 months you will be back.explain to him that when he asked you to move in with him you felt that this was your home as well as his and that any decisions regarding the home that you share would be made by the two of you. and that you are sorry that he does not feel the same way.
2006-11-29 16:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are going to move out if he doesnt cooperate, or at least listen and think about your opinion. Home should be a comfortable place, a place to relax. If there is a reason why you will be uncomfortable, then that needs to be fixed. Good luck
2006-11-29 16:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally I hate siding with the enemy but if you've been straight up I have to side with you. he hasn't been honest and he should have asked you first. once you live with someone and both of you are paying equally decisions like this have to be shared and worked out equally. besides this might be against your tennant agrement. a lot of landlords don't want extra people living if theyre not going to be paying rent. id also think about talking to the landlord if this other roomate is sucking off you two. might be time to think the relationship over if this guy can't live up to his word. peace.
Vin
2006-11-29 16:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy one, just let him know you'll be moving out as soon as the roommate move in. If he lets the roommate move in, then you'll know it's time to find a new boyfriend.
2006-11-29 16:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out.
2006-11-29 16:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out and tell your boy friend that i am moving out i am not feeling easing with this any more.
2006-11-29 16:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by creed 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what all women do....make his life a living hell until he caves in.
2006-11-29 16:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come spend some time with me
2006-11-29 16:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋