has anyone on her swap partners
or are there anyone interested in swapping
has any one ever been to a swing club
share ur thoughts and opinion
the reason i ask i went to a swingers club and i had a blast
and i m hook on it
anyone interested
2006-11-29 08:45:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got to attend a swingers party once as an observer so I could write a pursuasive arguement story and I left with the impression that is was not for me, but I didn't judge the people there either.
All of the couples I met totally loved it. Most of them were older couples which has been married to each other for several years. Even though the fade of swinger is catching on to a younger crowd, it is still pretty much a thing done by older crowds.
I walked away with the biggest truth of them all, "Happieness for you is not neccasily happiness to me."
Remember, there are people out there that think kissing in public is nasty, even though they do it behind closed doors. If it makes you happy, do it, damn what I think.
2006-11-29 09:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In theory it is possible to have fun and operate an open relationship this way. It is the stuff of fantasies. However, I have met a few swingers and there is an emptiness to the way they see their marriage and their partner. They will often discuss how hot one situation is, or another person they have sex with, but almost never do they comment on wanting their own partner, romantically or sexually. They always claim to have "strong" relationships, but it seems more like they have given up expecting anything from their relationships or partners. It just endures as a mechanism for continuing their open lifestyle. I suspect your partner doesn't take you very seriously, and wants to use the time he has with you to explore some wild fantasies. Good luck.
2016-05-23 02:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wanted to do this @ one time but when it actually came down to it , he backed out. Thank God. He was afraid I would find the pasture greener on the other side. I believe it would have ruined our marriage. Not because I would have left him for anyone else, but I feel the sanctity of the marriage would have been ruined. Instead, we just fantasize. I believe this is even better.
2006-11-29 09:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've tried it, it can make things really weird in a relationship, youi have to be totally clear on what's going on, and make sure you both understand some of the ramifications. But I don't think it's a bad thing if both partners are willing and mature enough to handle it.
2006-11-29 08:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
When we were a young married couple, all our friends were into wife swapping, except us. Now none of them are together, except us. We have been married 35 years and have seen a lot, and that is one sure way to ruin a relationship. In my opinion it never works out if you are hoping to keep the relationship together. If all you care about is sex, then go for it.
2006-11-29 08:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
yes we have been swapping for 10 years now. regardless of what anyone thinks or says, we have a very committed loving relationship. it's not something that we go out everynite looking for. in fact it only happens a few times a year. i guess it all goes back to the saying, "don't knock it til ya try it". most couples are to insecure, jealous, and closed-minded in there relationships for this kind of lifestyle to work for them.
2006-11-29 09:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by mj_jll 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Look at the partner you have and give them the love , you want to go looking for in swapping. You must not have any respect for yourself or your partner if you want them to be with someone else. You may have a blast now , but you will regret your actions in the future. Many animals mate for life, and they are not to have the brains we humans have to make good decisions. You need to read the bible.
2006-11-29 08:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by springer 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
i have this friend that swings with her husband here in virginia...and she has told me so many fun things that she and her husband does swapping couples and stuff she is in her early 30's...
2006-11-29 09:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have done it several times. Just make sure you know up front what the rules are. We enjoyed it and would do it again.
2006-11-29 09:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by theoncelers 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't have to go to these club to sleep with someone else. but if you do open your dusty bible hiding somewhere in your house, Ya that's the big book full of answer you probably nerver opened. Well in that book they tell you that even if you are both ok with that it is a sin ! It is also discusting !
2006-11-29 08:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋