what would you think ? would you stop looking at it or no ?
would you lie to her , and make her feel like shes your one and only , to make her feel better ? or would you just shrug it off as a "guy thing" ?
2006-11-29 08:39:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would do what everyone should do, introduce her to it. Most people look at porn for ideas, things to try in the bedroom, and just any sort of fantasy they have in mind for themselves. I know a ton of girls who couldn't live without porn, and I know a decent amount who can't stand it. If someone is that sheltered about it, I would leave them alone if they didn't want to have an open mind on something as natural as people being physical with one another. Hell even the off-the-wall types of porn is still nothing more than exploring new things with someone. To the point: If she was upset over something like that.......she obviously probably doesn't really care that much to start with if something like that is going to get her down. And second, she probably needs a dose of it herself before she understands the joys of that kind thing. Dunno, what to tell you but I believe you're overreacting, or you need to join in with him too. Should straighten everything out right there, and make him much happier too not having to hide something as weak as this.
2006-11-29 08:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am careful in what I look at for adult material. I avoid hard core pornography, especially when I'm on line. My fiancee' considers it "a guy thing" and basically it doesn't bother her. (I also don't get upset if she enjoys the natural beauty of other men.)
I can see very easily why a woman that is being compared to a porn queen would not like it. In that same vein comes having porn becomes a man's relationship instead of his S/O. Again the same goes for men that are replaced by porn won't like it either.
What it all comes down to is whether porn is a fantasy in a man's life (a little is OK.) Versus porn becoming a man's love life (not healthy.)
If my lady said she doesn't want me to see it anymore, I would just drop it.
2006-11-29 16:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what type of porn we're talking about here. If you find your boyfriend watching beastiality porn or other weird fetish porn, I would be concerned with his honesty. A lot of people watch porn, and not all people watch porn for the purpose of arousing pleasure. I doubt he's watching it because he's not satisfied with you or the relationship, however, it seems as though a lot of women feel this is the case. This is not so. Sexuality is part of human nature, and in a guy's mind it can certainly be separated from love. I would say that if it starts affecting your relationship with trust issues or decreasing sex life, I would bring it up to him.
2006-11-29 16:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a female, and I have had the same boyfriend for 2 years. Honestly, if any women think that their guy doesn't look at porn, they must live in a hole. It's such a guy thing, and it really doesn't bother me, because I know that the girls look a hell of a lot better than I do.
But too much porn, is just too much.
2006-11-29 16:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by mnihcbnowek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at porn, and my wife I am sure looks at guys in movies (Matt Damon once made her say 'Wow' when I was sitting right next to her). It is not the same as cheating because I will NEVER touch another woman and Matt Damon will NEVER touch my wife. As long as it's only fantasy what's the problem?
2006-11-29 16:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the porn is of consenting adults done professionally, there is probably nothing wrong with it. It is probably a good thing and not bad. It is mostly fantasy and at least he is not out activly looking for someone else. I would not worry about it.
2006-11-29 16:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at porn on occasion. No secrets and we have been together 40 years.
The thing about porn is it is the sex version of TV wrestling. all show and entertainment. Real people cannot do what these folks do and that is the magic of the show.
2006-11-29 16:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why men only.? You need a females point of view on this one. Explain that it is nature for men to look and this is safe and she knows where you are and she is the only one you touch and she shouldn't feel insecure and she could join you for some exploration.etc. Damn Boy. Communicate.
2006-11-29 16:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would sit down and talk to her about it and see if we could find some common ground about it. I would make sure that she knew that she was the one that I wanted to be with, and also try to explain to her that it is kind of a guy thing since we do have a bit (cough) more of a sex drive.
2006-11-29 16:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would learn to erase my history and cookie files better, and then tell her that I love her and would never cheat on her.
I would NOT lie to her - as I would never promise not to look at it again. That's a "pie crust promise," as Mary Poppins would say - easily made, easily broken.
My wife isn't happy that I look - but I don't leave it lying around either.
2006-11-29 16:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋