well my boyfriend is like really hot every one thinks soo and me and him were making out at my best friends house and we just started to have sex ! i dont even love my boyfriend i care about him but dont love him ! and every body tells me its for love and if u do it and dont love him u will regret it . But i dont regret it is that bad ? please no mean answers i know all the things that can happen to you if u have sex so dont tell em that stuff
2006-11-29 08:35:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Welcome to the club!! unfortunately, society has moved away from the "u need to love" to have sex. Don't feel bad. Next time slow down and think about it first. The pull of hormones can be amazing, but next time make a wise choice if your ever in the situation again.Since you've done :it", you'll probably do it again, so please make sure you use protection. But don't feel bad that you don't feel bad about not loving him. All us females always want our first time to be with someone we love and each time after to be with someone we love, but it doesn't always happen that way, more often than not, it'll be someone you are extremely attracted to but not extremely in love with. So next time just back off and cool down.
2006-11-29 09:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is means so much more when you love that person and it also tends to feel better too because of the love you share. However if you had sex and don't regret it and were careful and hopefully were ready then no I do not believe it is bad. Don't make a habit out of sleeping with people you don't love, learn from it and treasure sex as a gift of love in the future! Above all be careful and use protection no matter what!
2006-11-29 18:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by tab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl... you are 13. And you had sex? Not the greatest move. Now not only will you regret it.. because you didn't save it for someone you love, you WILL be marked a w h o r e cuz your boyfriend is going to tell his friends. A 13 year old boy, no matter what he tells you, he will brag it up to all his friends that he got lucky. I feel bad for you. 13 is so innocent.. and you threw it away.
2006-11-29 16:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't love him and you thought everything was okay. Please be careful. You could of set yourself up for some kind of STD. Whether or not you plan on it happening. The fact that you don't regret it is a different story and I won't go into that. Just know that you need to be SO SO careful. I have told everyone this and I will continue to. 80% of women in the United States have the HPV virus. They have no signs or symptoms and they don't even know they have it at all. Just please be more careful.
2006-11-29 17:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy To My Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've said you didn't regret it, but that's not the same as saying you think it's bad or good. Just because you don't regret something doesn't mean it wasn't the wrong decision. It depends on what your personal values are, what your own sense of right and wrong are.
In today's society, the attitude that "if it feels good, do it" prevails. Is that how you feel? Not trying to judge you--just trying to help you decide what your personal values are, and how you define what is bad or good.
2006-11-29 16:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you are asking this question if you don't regret your decision. If you are fine with it, then the opinions of other people shouldn't matter. It sounds as if you want reassurance that you are still a good person, which no one on here is going to be able to give you because we don't know you personally. I personally wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't love...but that is me. I'm not you. In the end, only your opinion of yourself is going to matter.
2006-11-29 16:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel regret? Do men feel regret when they sleep with everything around? Or when they use some nice girl? That idea that a woman should save herself is antiquated and anti-feminist. Really. But it does help if you at least like the guy.
2006-11-29 16:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Puritan/Mormon/Cult friends "don't knock it until you try it." This isn't Saudi Arabia, you can do whatever you want with your boyfriend even if you don't love him. You probably shouldn't get pregnant if you don't love him, that would ruin three lives. You probably don't' want to get an STD either because that would be hard to explain to your next boyfriend. Other than that, have at it, he is your boyfriend after all not just some hobo you found on the street.
2006-11-29 16:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by El Cupacabra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear god. really, how old are you? skip the love bit for a second. i don't think you sound like you're ready to deal with sex just by your question...or the fact that you have this question. i personally don't have a problem with adult sexual relationships. i mean, it happens. when you are still in school, i don't think you should be pursuing this type of relationship. christ, you're not even out in the world yet, really. your boyfriend is hot...good for him and good for you. i'll bet he thinks so too. why don't you focus on finding out who you are and what direction you want your life to take? it's going to take some time for you to figure these things out. get out into the world, learn how to function for yourself and then incorporate relationships or something.
2006-11-29 16:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you protect yourself... Condom is non- negociable, wear it or you don't touch it is my law... It's good though that you think about it, it means you won't hop in the sack with just anybody. And don't sleep with someone because you think it'll make him love you or because everyone thinks he's a hottie...PLease!!! It doesn't work that way, just like getting pregnant to keep a guy, it NEVER works...
So basically, don't worry too much about it and be sure next time... Do it cause YOU want to.
2006-11-29 16:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by katandfred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋