I do date a man about one year but then I asked him if he's not serious with me, he should tell me move on. I told him that I love him but I did not like how things are going between us. I want to change. I need to known that he wants me to be his girlfriend or not. I am already to move on but I need to be cleared. Then he's angry and he has not said anything for three days. What does this mean? Is he already leave me or he's still thinking? Why did not he say anything to me. Or is it not okay for me to ask him that question?
2006-11-29 08:29:43 · 11 answers · asked by Kiwi B 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If you are not happy with how things are going between the both of you, then why do you care if he is serious or not? You deserve better.
Honestly, Him not talking to you for three days means he is afraid to give you an answer. Therefore you need to confront him again and you need to make the next move.
If you really want this relationship to be or become a healthy one, give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you need to know how he feels about you NOW or you are leaving him. If he can't give you an answer, then he most likely doesn't want to hurt you and YOU need to end the relationship. If he says that he wants to be with you (before or after you tell him you are ending it), explain the changes that you want in your relationship and if he can't come to those terms or you guys can't meet in the middle, then this relationship isn't going to work and YOU need to end it. Tell yourself that you deserve better; Never sacrifice anything for anyone unless they are willing to do the same for you. Good luck.
2006-11-29 08:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by FBWillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok and a really good thing that you asked the question, and the fact that he's not dealing well with it seems to mean that he doesn't feel the same way but wants to continue things like they are. You are smart to ask, and I think you should move on. He may still be thinking, but he's probably waiting for time to go by and and he can pretend the subject didn't come up. If he was right for you and mature, he would not be angry at you. Don't let him bully you into staying with him. Move on!
2006-11-29 08:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the CORRECT answer. He's been comfortable with things as they were up to this time, and now he's mad, because right or wrong, he thinks you are now pushing him to make a choice. If he's a typical male, he will lean against making the commitment because of you pressing him for one. He's been cruising along for a year and likes it the way it is.
If you love him and want to make it work, and you don't want things to stay the way they are now, then talk to him, and tell him that you want to work things out to a point where you are both happy. If it looks like you aren't going to get anywhere with him, then move on and find someone else who's willing to commit to you.
Good Luck.
PS...This isn't a philosophy question; it belongs in the singles & dating category.
2006-11-29 09:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Deciphering relationships can be very difficult.
It sounds like you set a limit -- you've been dating for a year; you've had time to get to know each other very well, and you should be able to talk about where your relationship is going from here. He didn't react well to this.
He may be scared, he may feel pressured to make a commitment he's not ready to make, or he may just like things the way they are. He's had three days to think about it. It may be time to go get coffee or something with him and discuss where he sees the relationship going. If he continues to put you off, you probably have your answer.
(I only say go get coffee because for some reason I always discuss difficult issues over food. It just seems natural. You may want a safe environment -- one of your homes or something)
2006-11-29 08:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by dancinghawk_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Abby says that if a person doesn't express their feelings within 6 months, it is time to move on....he probably expected to keep enjoying the "benefits" without the feelings and that's why he is mad...there are more (and less stinky!) fish in the sea...
2006-11-29 08:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after a year this guy can't tell you how he feels about you then you should do yourself a favor and Move on.
2006-11-29 08:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by TriGuy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey, i m sorry to tell you that,but i think he doesn't care about you that much,because if he did , he wouldn't hezitate 1 second to tell you the feelings he have for you and i have to tell you that you had to ask him that question, to know your position, and to know how to acte. sweety you must give yourself priority, and never let any body play with your feelings and your heart . best wishes and good luck :)
2006-11-29 09:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by tigereyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE CONFUSED?1?!? I can't make any sense out of your "question" at all. But, here goes. I'll always take a chance--------so my answer is "Y * E S*
2006-11-29 09:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by JIMBO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's time to move on ..
2006-11-29 10:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him and get over it forget him
2006-11-29 08:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋