I was stationed in Japan with my now ex-husband.
We met a nice married couple while there.
A year after being divorced I got in contact with the guy from that marriage again through my ex. We were getting along great and he was just as nice, we talked about his wife and my love life, their kids, my son etc.
Then out of nowhere he starts talking about how he always thought I was really attractive and that he wanted naked pix of me!
I am friends with them both again, by this time. So I distanced myself from him, only sending him a message every so often to see how the kids are. I am trying to decide if I should tell her that her husband is a loser! She is always bragging on her myspace page that she's got such a wonderful husband and this fairytale marriage so I dont want to break her heart. I am still friends with her.
He even met her through cheating on his first wife... so I'm sure she knows how he is....
What should I do?????
2006-11-29 08:29:00 · 12 answers · asked by Jessie D. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If my wife was flirting with a friend of mine, I would hope he'd tell me. It's always a tough call deciding when to stick your nose in someones business. Then again, real friends tell you the truth instead of what you want to hear.
I'd tell her.
2006-11-29 08:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Govt45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's happy like that, don't ruin it for her. Maybe he was going through a hard time with his wife and just wanted to get back at her, but now it's over- after all, you haven't mentioned anything about him talking to you now or recently, right? Just leave it as it is, and let her deal with it. Ignore the husband, be friends with the wife. Why ruin a marriage?
If the problem does get serious though, you can touch on the issue with her and she'll probably bring it up and start to pour out Wehr feelings to you if the situation is troubling her. If that doesn't work, you can tell her outright.
But don't rush it, and don't let it bother you. If it's not so incredibly disturbing and you can live without hurting your friend, why not just save her from the pain?
2006-11-29 16:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by sweateredpanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth risking your friendship with her if she doesn't believe you?
Believe it or not, it is none of your business to come between a husband and wife even if you are the business. You told him you was not interested and that is good enough.
Most couples are joined at the hip about certain things and he can twist things to make himself look like the victim
As long as you are always straight up by not getting involved, he will eventually hang hisself and you should be there for her is she needs you. It can be tough spot to be in, but sometimes what you don't say is the best thing to say.
2006-11-29 16:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely if you tell her whats going on she wont believe you. Maybe she does know what is going on but just wants to act like nothing is wrong because she wants to keep her family together. I would lose all contact with her husband. If you want to know how the kids are ask his wife. Dont get involved.
2006-11-29 16:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by cynthia_0516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not your business to tell her anything about him, what would it do to you? make you rich or make you stronger? Be good to her and that might hurt her feeling if you tell her I don't want a girl to tell me how my wife is or my gf is that's not of their dam business just keep it to your self sweetheart. But anyway what the hell is she doing on myspace and she is married there is something wrong in this picture??
2006-11-29 16:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by § 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if this guy gets AIDs from catting around like this?
If she's really your friend, and you don't tell her and someday she gets AIDs how will you feel about that?
I think I would have to tell her, but you should be prepared for anger and denial. She may even decide not to talk to you any more. That's tough love, but if you truly care for this friend, she needs to know this information for her own safety.
2006-11-29 22:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through everything youve said Im pretty sure she knows.Shes either in denial or they have some kind of thing going on.Who knows! Maybe their swingers.Some people are that way.I personaly wouldnt be in a relationship with a man that asked my friend that.
2006-11-29 16:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you started having one-on-one conversations with a married man and he says something risque and now you want to tell the man's wife that he's a jerk? I think you should stop having private conversations and emailing with married men and stop reading his wife's myspace site. I don't know why you'd pick HIM to begin with, rather than pursue a friendship with his wife. That was cheezy on your part.
2006-11-29 16:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well she already knows her hubby is a jerk. If you tell her though, she will probably call you a liar.
What the heck....tell her. At least you'll feel better.
Don't talk to him anymore.
2006-11-29 16:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep what happened to yourself, especially if you value her friendship. She knew what she was getting into when she married him.
2006-11-29 16:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋