I recently got into a relationship with a wonderful girl, it started in summer and all happened so fast.... anyway, her family knew she was 'out' but they still didn't approve or her 'lifestyle' or understand it as the case usually is.... but they were ok with us, as in they aknowledged that we were in a relationship. I was even invited to have Christmas dinner with them and this was all very shocking to me. We met each other in Miami for Thanksgiving (I forgot to mention we were in a long distance relationship, but she plans to return home, where I am when she finishes school). So anyway we were there for Thanksgiving and I think we danced together at a party probably to one song and very soon the news spread back to her family at home....so now her mother is very upset and told her she should have been more descreet about her 'lifestyle' and not throw it in everyone's face.... so I'm now uninvited from Christmas dinner and banned from coming anywhere near the house...... Advice?!?
2006-11-29 08:13:55 · 10 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yikes! that sounds like a lot to deal with.. but if your gf loves you she'll help her family understand.. Just continue your relationship as you have in the past. As long as youre not abusing your gf her family will have no real reason to dislike you. If the love is there and strong enough you two will get through this.. just dont get mad at your gf for her mother.. she didnt get to choose her parents... Its too bad her mom doesnt see that you two love eachother!
PS.. Kudos to you for surviving a long distance relationship. if you can survive that you can survive a mother
2006-11-29 08:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by lostboi3008 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will agree with the majority, saying that the relationship is between you two. Keep it that way and stay together. Don't let them get in the way. While I will agree also that she needs to stand up or walk away from her "family" that is ashamed of her "lifestyle" I would also like to add that as her partner you need to be there for her. You two aren't just two random people. You're a couple. Stick by each other and support each other.
2006-11-29 17:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to tell her mother that this is the waythe two of you live your lives, and try to get her to understand it. At christmas dinners at my family's house everyone dances. There aren't any gays or lesbians in my family, but my mom always invites my best friend, who is gay. She invites him every year because he's like the son she never had. He always brings his boyfriend and dances with everyone else. If someone doesn't like it, then they can leave. And so my point is, is that you shouldn't have to sit down and not dance with the person that you love just because it makes some narrow minded people uncomfortable.
2006-11-29 08:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Manx 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The parents should understand that y'all do things like dance together.
Maybe you should each go with your own families this summer, or if she's feeling really brave, go on a vacation together.
My sympathies. My relatives were a lot like that; some still are. I have to really fight.
2006-11-29 08:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are dating your girlfriend and not her mother. Keep the relationship between you two. Your gf should be the one to deal with her family, if they are being unfair to you.
2006-11-29 08:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go to her house...But really this problem is not yours to solve...it should be up to your girlfriend to get it all sorted out..Her family sounds pathetic...they may be about to lose a daughter.
2006-11-29 08:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she really needs to go to a PFLAG meeting...
2006-11-29 08:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can teel her 2 F*ck off. Or run away with your gf
2006-11-29 08:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At family gatherings one who is gay or lesbian should practice some discretion. While some family members are ok with it there are those who just "tolerate".
2006-11-29 08:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Zwench 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
get some sperm samples and have a baby then your mom will have to keep you goys togeter!
2006-11-29 08:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by barney 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋