Still married after 14 years. 2 children. I am not divorcing him. I do not believe he see's the other woman - no physical evidence. I just feel so angry at him at times and would love to get his goat. He cheated on me with a girl who was only 20. Better yet, she was one of our employees.
2006-11-29 08:04:16 · 30 answers · asked by ParisCharleston 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
D-I-V-O-R-C-E!!!!!!!!
2006-11-29 08:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for not getting a divorce but working thru your issues. I also understand you would like him to feel some pain. the question is would you like to do it publicly or not.
I once heard a prank on talk radio, the DJ posing as a doctor from the CDC called the husband and ask if he had relations with a certain one, and went on to say how she has a new virus 10 time worst the AIDs, but not to worry if there were never intimate. After he says he was, then there is still no need to worry, although he only has a couple days to live, but he can solve the issue buy making a syrum at home. Be creative as possible there i.e. mix mayo with pickly juice and vinigar, and crushed advil, and flour to make a paste and rub on his "area" I'm sure he will do it.
or
You can make a home video of you and some guy pretending to go all the way. then ask him how it feels to be on the other side.
or blackmail him for trips and gifts
either way do what ever your doing once, and let him know your olny doing this once and that you forgive him although it will take time to forget
2006-11-29 08:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know, good question,
ask for std testing from him, of his cheating, get tested for your self!
I can understand to keep the family together, but an non violent action to be done,
call the girl he cheated on to your house, and tell her whe will be sue by trying to break up the marriage, and this is a wierd and crazy idea, but set him up that he is going to bed with you, but she is in the bed waiting, and you are too, with some fetish on how far you want to go with it, and let him feel some pain on the bottom side!
Let him know it is not ok for him to cheat, and if he does, it will get worse the next time!
Take some control!
Then see if he is willing to be faithful with you, that he does not no 20 year old to give what he needs, since he has you that you really know him quite well!
I know it is a crazy idea, but you did say non violent, and that you don't want a divorce!
Good luck
2006-11-29 08:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not opting for divorce then you're just going to have to live with it. Sorry.
If you decide to get back by cheating then it will only continue the drama and create more jealousy and space between the two of you.
I suggest talking to him about your feelings towards him for his actions. Maybe he can find a way to make you feel more secure. If he can't then - you're stuck as far as I'm concerned.
If it was me I would opt for divorce. An unhappy marriage doesn't help you or your kids down the line.
2006-11-29 08:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What ever you do to get him back, will more than likely not make you feel any better. If you cheat on him, that will just open the door to let him do it to you again, then, your marriage will be over, divorce or not. Why not take a different approach and the both of you seek counseling, so that you can get past your anger.
2006-11-29 08:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GROW-UP!!!...I have been married 15 years with two kids...And "getting even" is never the answer....You know that!...And I would think after 14 years you know how to "get his goat!"....lol....I call my husband and ask him to pick up the kids because I am out with friends and have NO idea when I may be home.....Gets his goat every time!..And maybe, just maybe you should be happy that he can still get a woman 20 years younger than you!....He must be pretty HOT!!.....lol
2006-11-29 08:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either leave or stay in the marriage and put it to rest
You are just hurting yourself by thinking about him and her
You should talk to him again and tell him how hurt you are and that you actually asked people on line about ideas on how to get back at him..I can only imagine what some of the answers are going to be
Maybe you can have a laugh together...that's a start
I fear once a cheater..always a cheater
Of course he is sorry......sorry you found out
So, if your going to stay with him you need to mend fences or they just keep on breaking down....
Very hard to continue in any relationship without trust
Good Luck
2006-11-29 08:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by darcy m 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best revenge is living well. Start a work out routine, go get a makeover, pamper yourself. Take a class, expand your circle of friends. Go to "women's only" stuff, maybe do a weekend trip with a friend! I think a self- esteem boost would be the best thing in the world. Then, do both of you a favor and go to marital counseling.... maybe an outsider can tug on his shoulders and get his head to pop out of his a**!
And I think someone may have a new car coming her way! lol!
2006-11-29 08:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by dedum 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say that if you choose to stay with a man who has repeatedly cheated on you, then you have no grounds for revenge. You know who he is and what he's done, and chances are very good that he'll do it again. If that's the life that you choose, then you can only be angry at yourself.
2006-11-29 08:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would personally start shopping at better stores...buying anything I wanted. I woud also demand that he do more around the house....cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. I would demand to be taken out to eat...or make him bring dinner home. And if he said anything.....I would say "At least it's only money...and I am not cheating on you." That's what I would do if I stayed...but personally...I would leave. But I can understand why some women don't.
2006-11-29 08:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh yea!
You take a sewing needle and gently break every 3rd stitch in the crotch of his favorite jeans. Whe he sits down...blam!!!!
Feed him alpo burgers next time you cook hamburgers for dinner.
Put hot sauce in his morning coffee
At night when he is asleep take all of his clothes and lock them and his keys in his car...when he wakes up all he will have to wear to work is what he sleeps in...hope for him it's the buff...and he will be late to work cause he has to walk.
change his cell phone message to say something like," Hi. This is the cheating bastard. I don't care about my wedding vows or my wife's feelings. So leave me a message and I will call you back if you are young and hott!!
2006-11-29 08:14:19 · answer #11 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋