will it work?

Question

if your wife's stepson is living with you, i want to know about your experience

please read carefully guys .im not talking about my stepson [my wife's son] but im talking about my wife's stepson . thank you

Answer 1

I have had my stepson since he was 5. He's going to be 15 next month and I call him my son. Yes, it can work...but you have to give it your best effort. You have to be tolerant because the child has suffered a loss with the separation of their mom and dad. You have to set the rules and make them understood right from the beginning...for every wrong done there is a consequence, but you need to be fair about.

Most important of all, and please read this a couple of times...you and the mother need to show a united front about each and every disciplinary decision made. The child will not respect you if you have a rule and mommy says to never mind that rule.

Good luck. It's tough, but I'm thankful everyday for my son.

*Just read your additional details and my answer to you does not change. It's still a child needing love and disapline.

Answer 2

My step-dad and my brother get along just fine. To my brother, our step-dad IS our dad, and to our step-dad, my brother IS his son. We have never called our step-dad anything other than Dad or Daddy, so the situation is a good one. How stepdad and stepson relationships work out really depends on the people and how they feel towards each other.

Answer 3

hi there i take it ...he is youre son .....or is her son .....im in a new relationship and my youngest daughter is living with us and to cut a long story short yes it can work but you have to all be open and really honest with each other and when you get ride of the step bit it can be a really good and healthy relationship ,and work really well dont get me wrong its like any family we have our bad days and have out fall out ....which do not last long as we all talk so openly with each other and respect each others views and that doesnt mean that you have to agree with them but see each others point of view and quite often we agree to disagree ......you have to remember one more thing is as a parent either of you never put down the missing parent and that is vital any thing that you have to say about that parent must not be said in front of that child as you want them to be as open as possible but if you slag them of you are never going to get that child to feel safe in this home .........good luck and i hope that has shead some light on things for you .......good luck and take care xx

Answer 4

yes it can work , it depends on the previous lifestyle he was accustomed too .....if the father let the kid do nothing and let him be a pain then he will be a pain ......my friend had a similar deal and the kid blossmed into a wonderful young man ,,, some kids just need a solid male role model ,,,,,,,try to be that role modelfor the step son ........you can make it work ..

Answer 5

Yes it works very well! We are friends!