If you found out from a reliable source that your husband and another married woman kissed and just made out 6 months ago and this happens to be a woman you are commonly friends with, would you confront her about anything? Lets say your hub and her still email about some general things since you happen to see some mails. Since you know that even now, would you tell this woman friend to stop emailing your man, would you tell her you know of their kiss and making out session, would you tell her not to come to your house and not invite her or her hubby to your parties? Would you say anything to her if you knew her fairly well among your married group of friends?
2006-11-29 08:01:47 · 25 answers · asked by richards_tr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
or would you just talk to your husband and be all calm and collect with that woman as if nothing happened? Would you call her or write her emails to see how she is doing?
2006-11-29 08:03:43 · update #1
no I wouldn't confront her. I would talk to my husband instead. I don't have a relationship with the girl. But I'll make sure that she knows the guy she is having sex with, is married.
Have you heard about the saying that goes "the sweetest revenge to a cheating husband is to give him to his mistress?"
2006-11-29 08:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, did you confront your man? That's the one that needs to be put on blast first, for doing what he did to you. Friends come and go, but this is a marriage and he didn't obey that commitment he made to you. Then he didn't even let you know what happened. Even after six month, oh, I would let him know that I know about his "little six month secret". Then I would confront her and let her know "what's up" too. I wouldn't try to beat her a-- (well, unless she try to step up and then she'd have to get clocked out) because that won't solve what happened six months ago but I would let her know how much she hurt me and that I don't feel comfortable with her coming around my family anymore. She should of been woman enough to come to you and let you know what happened. Whether it was a so-called "accident" or "it just happened" kind of deal, it should of still be brought to your attention instead of from someone else. And as far as her husband is concerned I would tell her she needs to explain to her husband for the break in the friendship. It's not your place to let him know why, you don't need to do her dirty work. It may back fire on you and you come out looking like the bad guy. If he confronts you and ask, then politely say "you need to talk to your wife, it's her place to tell you why". I wish you luck.....
But then again it already seems like you're blaming just her so I think you've already made up your mind on what to do.....
2006-11-29 08:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.CuteCaDiva 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say something to her. Especially if you even remotely consider eachother friends. THen I would cut all ties with her & make sure he does the same! It is in no way acceptable & you cant let them think they have gotten away with it. Neither one of them respect you & honestly if he was bold enough to make out with someone you know, can you really trust that he wont do it again or hasnt done it before....or even more.
It would be a different case if she didnt know he was married, but obviously she does...they both need a talking to! And make it clear to her that if she so much as even emails him again you will make sure that her husband knows too!
2006-11-29 08:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you confront the woman, she doesn't owe you anything. She never made a promise to you or told you that she loved you. In the end all that does is make you look stupid. Deal with your man only. Sometimes women will do things like that just because they're jealous, don't give her the satisfaction.
2006-11-29 08:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by TooCute 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not confront her about anything!....Why not talk to your husband about it!...This kind of thing is a two way street you know....So many time the wife blames the "other" woman when if fact it is her husband she should be concerned about!....And NO if I actually thought something was going on I would not have them at my house any more.....But I would not cause trouble for her in her marriage either...
2006-11-29 08:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not just confront them both. And stop being friends with the other woman and her husband
2006-11-29 08:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront your husband, as he made the choice, and tell him in no uncertin terms that he can't do this anymore. if he is remorseful and sorry than it's a start, if not than u have some problems. if this other woman know's u are upset by her presence she might start persueing him more.stay away from her, keep her out of your home, and away from your husband, protect what u value.
2006-11-29 12:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango and two to make out and kiss.....why confront just her? CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AT THE SAME TIME AND ONLY IF YOU CANNOT LET THE ISSUE GO...personally I think 6 months is too long ago to deal with it you should have dealt with it when you knew about it if not sooner
2006-11-29 08:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would talk to her. In fact something similiar happened to me. I approached the girl calmly though, like..."If this happened to you, you'd want to know the truth too"...and she sang like a bird...and I found out what a dawg my husband was. It's not the other woman's fault, by the way, she's not the one with the committment to you. HE is. However, if you want to know the whole truth, talk to her...but he does need to cut ties with her. Obviously, he doesn't respect you. He's still talking to her....even though he was in the wrong.
2006-11-29 08:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by confronting .Atleast she will know that u know it all or otherwise that can happen under ur nose again since she ia still visiting u guys...... if it can happen once what will stop these shameless cheats to do it again ..
if i would have been at ur place i would have called her husband first with all the proof and details
so that poor guy is not unaware of his cheating wife
2006-11-29 08:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by sassy_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋