I'm a 10 year old girl about 2 turn 11 in 2 weeks. The doctor I go to is a woman. I of course go to a pediatricion. In the set up of the doctor, I have to go there until I'm 18! This Friday, in 2 days, I have a doctors appointment. In my last visit, 2 years ago, My doctor made a comment like,"OH! It looks like we're getting a little hair down here. I was embarrassed then. Now I have "boobs". I'm scared what comment she'll make this time. And now, it's worst. She and my mom are friends and she goes 2 the same church as us. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-11-29 07:54:36 · 31 answers · asked by baldjacket 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
tell your mom you want to switch doctors... you don't HAVE to go to her if you don't want to.. she shouldn't have said that... tell your mom the truth, and then when you switch doctors just tell the lady that you feel more comfortable seeing a doctor that isn't a friend of the family or a fellow chruch parishner...
2006-11-29 07:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The way you feel completely normal... and sorry but it gets crazier...
ask you mom if you can go in alone…
tell the doctor you are not exactly comfortably with your changing body… that comments people make, make you feel embarrassed she should understand, and be more careful about the things she says.
Ask her to explain what kind of exams you gill be getting and why…
Ask the doctor if she has any information for you about what to expect as you mature and what and why things happen to you body…
Write down you questions / concerns and bring them with you – you will get nervous and forget everything when you get in the doctor office…
Most of all remember she is a professional, she doesn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable, she is there to help you..
2006-11-29 16:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by string1dm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be ashamed of your body. The Doctor shouldnt be making coments like that....it can be embarrassing for any woman. Dont be afraid or embarrassed she is your moms friend. A womans body is the same as all the rest, your going to get bigger boobs, and your pubic are will be growing in. But your Doctor is a woman too, and has the same body. She probley didnt mean to upset you so. Next time she coments on your developing body, just answer back with a joking jester, saying "dont all we women have this"? (wink) it will break the tension and let your doc know your dont like her, being so noisy, about your body.
By the way, be proud, your a woman, Puberty means your not a lil girl anymore! Hope this helps.
PS. Ive known Doctors both Men and woman who were friends of the family, and they dont think gross thoughts or try to embarrass their patients. The Human body is all alike,nothing that happens (unless disease) is weird.
2006-11-29 16:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats really embarrassing, I feel bad for you. Maybe if you get a moment alone with the doctor if she says anything this time, you can give her a stern 'please dont say that out loud again' sort of comment. A good doctor would be aware of the effects comments like that can have on someone so Im really surprised that she'd say something like that. Its experiences like that which will make you ashamed of your body in the future and thats no way to live. Just realize that you do have the right to tell her not to speak about things like that if they make you uncomfortable.
2006-11-29 15:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so patronising and insensitive. She should know that, at this age, you are going to be self conscious about every tiny little thing.
I would see if your Mum will let you see a different doctor. Tell her this one makes you feel uncomfortable. If you can't change then just remember that it is her in the wrong saying dumb and pointless things. She shouldn't say things like this, you're just trying to grow after all, you don't need these silly comments! I think a lot of Doctors are really stupid and they like to feel superior to their patients.
2006-11-29 16:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by wicket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your doctor makes you uncomfortable, tell her about it. Don't be embarrassed. You may want to talk to your mom about it first and then at your next doctor's visit, simply tell her that her comments make you very uncomfortable. She will understand and will keep those comments to herself. But also, don't be afraid or feel embarrassed to ask any questions you like.
2006-11-29 16:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarassed by it! Be proud of your boobs! I bet she won't say anything this time since you are a bit older. And as for her being friends with your mom, she is still a doctor and will remain professional even when it comes to her friendships. She most likely won't tell your mom anything about your appointment unless it is completely necessary. Just don't worry about it!!! And maybe, if she does make a comment like that, just tell her it makes you uncomfortable. She may feel like she can say those kinds of things to you since she is friends with your mom... Or you could tell your mom about it and have your mom talk to her.
2006-11-29 15:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember, she has seen it all - many, many times. She was probably actually trying to give you a compliment - on 'becoming a woman'. To most girls, it might not have been an unacceptable comment. If you are sensitive to such comments, you might mention it to her. She can't be expected to read your mind. They don't teach that in medical school. Perhaps, if you mention, fairly early in the appt., that you are bothered by such a comment, she will phrase her comments differently. Most of all, remember, she's been there too.
2006-11-29 16:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine you're just growing up, you're changing and everything is going to start to seem embarassing but it's really no big deal hell i'd imagine that at you're age you're one of the first girls in your school to get boobs so it's really not that big of a deal oh and she's not going to stand up in the middle of church and say" oh look little betty has pubes and boobs lets all laugh" first of all because no one would laugh and no one would ever sit by her in church again, second all adults atleast haave the pubes and most girls have both so don't worry about it
2006-11-29 15:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarassed. I had a male doctor until I was like 12 and I started my period when I was 10 if you get my drift. So don't worry she sees lots of patients and you shouldn't be any different. If you are really uncomfortable then tell your mom and ask her if you can change doctors.
2006-11-29 15:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can really do it try your best not to be enbarrassed, so many people go to the doctors and have to reveal things they dont want to. your doctor has probally seen so many young girls bodys. You might not even have to take off any clothes which will then be great. Hopefully you turn out ok tomarow speak to me if you have anyother problems. x
2006-11-29 16:00:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋