My Friend got raped by her bf's friend?

Question

My best best friend had sex with her boyfriend and he left to go to the store and his friend came over to visit her bf, and she told him that he was gone. my friend than said that he was drunk and forced himself on her! my friend is afraid that she is pregnant but doesn't believe in abortions, and she hasn't told her bf, and she got raped two weeks ago! I believe my friend and I know the guy who raped her what should I do to help her??? NOTE: she doesn't want to call the cops nor tell her bf.......can someone please help me!

Answer 1

IT doesn't matter what she wants to do, it's what she has to do. In order to get that guy off the streets she needs to report him. Chances are that it's too late to take him to trial and win because she let time go by so long. If she's really not willing to tell the police, she has to tell her boyfriend. You realize that she's being incredibly selfish by keeping it all in and only telling you. Her boyfriend is friends with this guy who hurt his girlfriend, and the boyfriend should know all of these things. Have her take a pregnancy test and if it comes out positive have her tell her parents and plan her next step. And she has to tell her boyfriend. There is no way around that, she has to tell him. He deserves to know and he needs to know that about his "friend". People who rape people are ill and they need help, and to be stopped.

Answer 2

Girls When I was 16 I was raped and I never told anyone but my Mother.I was also pregnant. I was so messed up from this I didn't even know what I was doing. My younger sister was 6 months along and My Mother was having problems just raising 4 of us with no father around. Let alone a grandchild on the way and come to find out another one.
I called the guy that raped me because he was my so called boyfreind at the time. He said it was not his problem. That he would pay for an abortion. I didn't know what to say and I told him to F*** off and never spoke to him again. I wasn't sure what I was going to do. I was so confused at the time and I just tried to block it out. My Mother made the appt. and I went and had it done. The guy was a druggie and was on so much stuff I didn't know if I could deal with a child that had something wrong with it. To this day I do not remember what went on in that room I remember bits and pieces not much. I jsut wanted to block the whole thing out. I didn't know if I could love the baby knowing what happened to me. To this day I regreat having it done.
And I cry about it and think about what the baby would look like or be like. The baby would be 27 years old this year! I now have 2 Daughters and love them more than anything. They are the most precious things to me. I also lost one 7 months before I concevied my oldest Daughter which will be 16. this May. I do tell them both that I was raped and they know about both babys that I lost. Don't let anyone tell her what she should do that has to be up to her and this pro choice thing . I do not believe that someone has the right to tell me what I can and can not do with my body especailly a man when they do not go thru what we go thru!!! If you are not raped and don't go thru the ordeal of everything and then find out you are pergnant that makes everything worse. No wonder women go nuts. I now have so problems mentally and I think it has alot to do with the fact that I never turned that BA****D in to the cops.
Tell her she has to turn him in because he will do it again maybe not to her but to someone else. He should be put away regardless of if he is a freind to someone or not.
I hope this helps and if she needs to talk she can email me anytime. even you.
God Bless!

Answer 3

Her best options are to tell the police, I know it will hard, but it what she has to do, and let me tell you why, what if he does it again to some other girl, he needs help, he's a predator, he needs to be removed from society for a while, and the only way this will happen is if your friend tells the police on him, how would your friend feel if this guy who raped her turns around, and rapes you, or some other friend of your?? get him off the street, and tell someone, if you tell the bf first he will try to kill him, and thats a huge mess, get the police involved, as much as we don't like the cops, its there job!

Answer 4

Umm - this just happened two weeks ago? And she already knows she's pregnant? Wow.

Well first off I would make sure she was pregnant - go see a doctor and make it official. If she is pregnant then she needs to figure out what she wants to do. If she does decide to keep the baby she needs to find out who the father is and if it is the other guy then she needs to let her boyfriend know.

In that case there really isn't a choice of whether or not she WANTS to tell him.

Answer 5

From experience. I was 15 almost 16, raped by my friends boyfriends friend and he told me if I told anyone he would kill me, I found out I was pregnant. Gave her up for adoption which was the hardest thing to do in my life, but I wasn't old enough to take care of myself let alone taking care of a baby. I eventually told my Dad and talked to the police. I had every test imaginable to see if I had any std's. Thank God I didn't. But the thing is the longer I kept inside and hid the pregnancy until I could no longer hide it anymore I felt so much better for letting it out. He only got 6 months in jail because they called it a date rape because there was no abuse. Hell, it was plenty abuse the F***er raped me. Call the police with her boyfriend there and give her your unconditional love. Watch her boyfriend may get violent towards his friend so don't let him do anything he can go to jail for.

Answer 6

if she wants to or not i think the bf should know about it. he has every right to. and if she is then she should wait till she has the baby to see if it was his or her bf's. just wait it out and time can only tell. and if you tell the bf the he would probably want to call the cops and have them deal with it... if he doesnt do it himself... but thats only a good thing because i think that it is very wrong for someone to be raped... it happened to me two years ago and the worst thing you can do is not tell anyone.

Answer 7

This will devastate her for the rest of her life. She'll have nightmares about this encounter. My wife was raped 6 years ago by some guy at a party and there are things that I do unconsiously that remind her of the time she was raped. If she doesn't do something now, she may never forgive herself. Plus, there's a statute of limitations, so if she doesn't feel like prosecuting now but does want to later after flashback haunt her, she may not get her chance.

Answer 8

Make an appointment with a gynecologist, tell them it's an emergency. The doctor will be able to tell if she's pregnant.

Try to get her to call the cops, but it is going to be very difficult for her, so don't push this too much. If she doesn't want this to be exposed, then it will be hard to convince her to call the cops. But explain to her that if this guy doesn't get in trouble for this, then he could do it again to someone else.

Answer 9

tell the cop that the only thing that would help her look my friend got raped and she never call the cop and she re gets because the man that raped her is out there doing that to little girls talk to your friend and go to the doctor with her and make sure that she doesn't not have nothing because bf Friend problem had something .meanwhile i hope that your friend gets better and god bless her

PS go to the doctor

Answer 10

I would go to the cops about it and get the person for rape and assault. I would also tell the bf he has the right to know and if he does nothing to help then he is no better than the rapist. Personaly myself I would take the person that raped her and put his nut on a anvil and give him a ball-ping-hammer and hold a gun to his head and give him a choice his nuts or his head.