After a divorce...?

Question

Is it possible for a woman to stay single for the rest of her life? My husband and I are divorcing and I don't want anyone else. There has never been another man for me but my husband and I don't want there ever to be anyone to replace him in my heart.

The divorce wasn't my choice. He wants to leave me.

Island girl, you are reported. You have answered all of my questions with insults. Don't send me any insulting messages anymore either.

Answer 1

I hear ya! I was married to my first and only love for 15 years, then he coughed up his last brain cell by letting me go. My heart was broken and I swore that I would never fall in love again. I have been single now for almost 2 years and so far I have no interest in dating or even marriage. Maybe later, much later, after the kids are grown and gone, but yes, it is possible. I know several ppl who have been divorced over 20 years and never got re-married.

the mere thought of playing the whole dating game again makes me nauseous. I don't like the rules of 2006 anyway. They don't meet my strict standards and so I am glad that I have an excuse to stay home on Friday nights, namely my 3 gr8 boys.

GL with the divorce...don't look back, I am having a blast being single. So much more peace in my life now for the 1st time in 15 years I am truly happy and not under the control of a tyrant. My sister is also divorced, as well as her roomate, and some friends. So we get together when we can for the "Ex-wives club" and have dinner, giggle, trash our exes, drool over the hotties in the resturaunt that night, and come home to our messy homes and kids with all their drama.

Answer 2

Sure it's possible... All one has to do is to never marry again.

But it would be really stupid, IMO. Statistically, family is one of the most rewarding aspects of one's life in the long run. I'm sure it's hard to be getting divorced (been there done that); but you will not feel the same for the rest of your life as you're feeling now - it is simply not how our brains work. Just take it a day at a time, and eventually you will find someone to fall in love with again.

Answer 3

Here are statistics from recent years about other divorced couples.
43% of first marriages end within 15 years.
Red states have a divorce rate 27% higher than blue states.
75% of all divorced people re-marry, half of them within three years. Percentage of divorced women who remarry within five years 54%.
So chance for each of you to stay single statistically is 25%.
Chance that both of you will stay single forever is 6.3% statistically.
Remember saying that time is best doctor for the heart.

Answer 4

Of course it is possible for a (divorcee) woman to stay single for the rest of her life. But she should not need to.
Pray it does not come to that, but if it does, that the two of you may eventually un-divorce.
But if the divorce stays, you will soon come to want someone else. Hopefully, very possibly better. One can always be happier than they are since no one or thing or situation can ever be perfect.

Answer 5

yeah i t is and most people men and women after a divorce they dont want to get married again and have very little interest in getting back out their they dont want to go through it all again most of them say i'll never say never but im not looking either id say if your happier staying single then trying to go out an dates and trying to find some do that i'd say that it would prolly be a good thing for a while anyways sorry to ramble yes it is a lot of women do the same thing when they become widows

Answer 6

sometimes we have to move on even if we still love the person, by saying u never want there to be anyone else your shutting out anyone else that might come into your life. your husband isn't feeling hurt, and will move on with someone else, why would u put yourself in this self imposed exile from a new life, cause u think it would be disrespectful to your memory of your husband. by holding on to his memory, and hoping he will return you will get nothing but lonliness. u owe your ex nothing after the divorce, holding on to and hoping to recreate something that is gone is self destructive. u deserve a life, with someone who will love u. he does not hold u at this high esteem as u do him. yes u could stay single sit at home and grieve with your brokenheart, or u could know that we weren't meant to be alone. we all deserve happiness. and to have someone who loves us. u owe him nothing at all, and u can be sure u will be replaced in his heart.

Answer 7

Yes, it is entirely possible for a woman to stay single after a divorce. I'm a little concerned about your reasoning, though. Why divorce if you will always be open to taking him back?

Answer 8

hi there ......im sorry that you have been hurt but how can you ever say never yes there will always be youre 1st husband and yes you will always have memories of what you had ,but for what ever reasons that has come to an end and i cant see youre x-husband living like a nun for the rest of days....why should you .....i hope this doesnt sound really hard but when my marriage came to an end i never thought that i would meet some one who fills my world with happiness and laughter and makes my daughter laugh as hard as she does .......you cant close the rest of the world out due to what has happened in this marriage .....and the answer to youre question is yes any woman or man can live the rest of there life without a partner ......but are they really happy some of them are really happy and others are just to scared to make the choice of trying it again .....we humans are designed to have company we need that ........i really hope you find some peace annd happiness and i really wish you the best of luck and please take care of youre self and not all relationships end up like ours have .......take care xx

Answer 9

Staying single and replacing your ex are two different things. I'm divorcing my husband and he can't be replaced. He was my first husband and I loved him once very strongly. Our memories are ours and ours alone. He will always exist in my heart and in my mind in that way. But having another relationship is healthy and would give me new happy memories and allow me to enjoy the present portion of my life. I am now deeply in love with a wonderful man who is nothing like my ex and who makes me feel very happy. You'll get over the pain of your ex and you won't forget him. Once you are over the pain, you'll have another, healthier relationship. Human beings aren't meant to be alone. We weren't built that way, we require emotional connections to thrive. Don't punish yourself because the relationship ended. Just learn from it and move on.

Answer 10

Of course it is. Statistically women tend to be happier than men after a divorce. It is not hard to get a neighbor or a friend to help you with man work around your house and I'm sure you can support yourself and get by just fine. One day you may feel like moving on, but it is by no means a necessity.