Deep down in your soul if someone abuses you verbally they HAVE?

Question

TO KNOW!!! WHY DO THEY say, "i am just being realistic"...because they are NEGATIVE AND JUST SAY.."oh, i am not, i am being realistic...."..But everyone that knows this person has told him....because he picks on people and so forth....he is abusive...Now if it were me, I'D KNOW IF I WAS BEING ABUSIVE....QUESTION; DO PEOPLE THAT ARE ABUSIVE KNOW THEY ARE????...I would think they would have to....they hurt people's feelings!!!! THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF IS GET AWAY FROM HIM!!! that is the best way to deal with him...is to get away!!!

Answer 1

You're totally right. All you can do for your own peace of mind is get away from this person. I myself have not solved the mystery of how abuser's minds work. Whether they are very self aware or not, they are highly manipulative and you will never, ever win an argument with such a person. Just quit trying and get your own life back. I feel for you because I have been in such a relationship myself, but it was a long time ago and life does get better.

There are "normal" people who know they're being abusive when they're in a bad mood, but I don't think that's what you mean. When most people say something they shouldn't have, they apologize instead of making the other person feel worse, crazy and confused.

Answer 2

There are some people that know they are being verbally abusive. There are others that do not. Some of those may be under the belief they are helping you or trying to help you. They just do not realize that the way they say things they say is abusive. You can stay away from the person, or you can try repeating word for word what they said back to them and see if they hear what's wrong in the statement. If they are unaware of their wrong use of words that might help them, but if they are truly saying it in an abusive way, turn around and walk away. Some people you cannot change.

Answer 3

I think you are very upset now.
Well, if you received verbal abuse from someone, then try to ignore them. Nobody's perfect. You have to know that those verbally abusive people may have had experienced the same abusive situations in their past. So unconsciously, they cast and project their unaccepted feelings inside them towards others in the very same way like they were abused before. Pity actually, cuz it's like an unbroken chain continually goes on. So you gotta break the chain now....break the cycles, it's not easy I know.

And remember one thing that could make you feel better: those people who abuse you verbally, obviously they are unhappy people. Yes. Something's missing in their soul until they use words to abuse others. To make others become their company in their miserable world. Don't join them.
Unhappy people always like it when everyone else's unhappy. Don't get attracted by them. Remember as well that unhappy person attracts more unhappiness.

Answer 4

Well the people who are verbal abusive don't think they are but the one who is getting yelled at and being called names sure knows. My Husband calls me stupid all the time and it drives me nuts!!!Good luck

Answer 5

if I'm getting the jist of your question i would say they are saying they are only being realistic because there in denial or darent admit they are abusive

Answer 6

yes,of course they know.they dont want to admit it or take the blame for it.its called "passive -agressive."theyre all mean to someone,but when called on their behaviour,they say "it was constructive criticism",or "i was only being helpful" or "cant u take a joke?" just write this game playa off !!!!!

Answer 7

Im not really sure what the queation is...it seems like you answered whatever there was to say.

Answer 8

You gust answer your own answer.Read what you had to say on your bottom.Have a nice day.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are upset. Follow you own advice.

Answer 10

THEY KNOW
THEY DON'T CARE
LEAVE - NOW IF YOU CAN
BEFORE YOU GO CRAZY CALM DOWN